Name: Theo Von, Bobby Lee & Khalyla Talk About Being Attracted to People Outside of Your Relationship
Uploaded: 2019-03-03T19:41:58.000Z
Description: Watch the stand-up comedy video 'Theo Von, Bobby Lee & Khalyla Talk About Being Attracted to People Outside of Your Relationship' from Theo Von Clips on Comedy Buff. Published 2019-03-03. Transcript available.

Watch the stand-up comedy video 'Theo Von, Bobby Lee & Khalyla Talk About Being Attracted to People Outside of Your Relationship' from Theo Von Clips on Comedy Buff. Published 2019-03-03. Transcript available.

yeah that was downer hi theo kalilah and bobby my name is julia and i'm from
toronto and i love
all of you i love both of your podcasts tiger belly and this past weekend thank
you um i have
a question for you all considering you're all in relationships what do you do
about uh being
attracted to people outside of your relationships and have you ever felt
inclined or the urge or
desire to step outside your relationship and cheat thanks so much guys love you
it's a really
complex question though it's an easy question though what is it well and there's
your two
i want to hear you i want to see your answer and then i'll answer based on your
answer she already
said me not chris dude if you go into a relationship thinking that you cannot
have eyes for anybody else
you're setting yourself up for failure if you go in thinking that yes i will
always i will probably
find 50 000 people attractive in my lifetime but i choose this person it's a
lot less of a burden to
carry i tell you when i find someone attractive yeah but i would i don't i'm
not threatened by that
feeling of attraction i just know that i'm allowed to feel that way because i'm
human and therefore i
don't feel the need it doesn't become a temptation because i own it right it
becomes a temptation when
you try to suppress that feeling of attraction and then all of a sudden it
feels like ooh like
it becomes exciting that temptation turns to excitement because you're trying
to suppress it
i also i honestly honestly i've always had many many
don't know if it's many crushes yeah of course we play candy crush too all the
time yeah no but i'll
like you know you know i'll go to a certain like coffee shop or whatever bathhouse
yeah and there's
a girl that's there that's cute right my suit and then they go oh you know i
mean oh i'm a fan of
you know and you go oh yeah and then you go yeah sorry sorry go on anyways i
have these little mini
crushes during the day or over the years but it's also you know i know that i'm
in a committed
relationship with her it doesn't you know i don't know i just i just don't
cheat yeah and i think those
little mini crushes or those little things make you realize oh that i still
have you know i'm a human
being i have feelings you know and um it also makes it kind of exciting
exciting and i think that
if it makes it exciting to kind of see your partner too and remember that you
did feel that
same feeling with them but 50 times stronger when you first met them right yeah
and i think you just
constantly have to remind yourself that you you you felt that way about your
partner now i think that
you know people have their own rules and relationships and people have like
open relationships
but it hasn't been hard being monogamous with him even though i was my last
relationship was with
two men wow i lived in i lived with two men we had a great relationship for
several years we traveled
together it was respectful it was great it sounds good i never want to do that
again it was exhausting
it sounds exhausting yeah um sounds very but i've never thought fun i know i
know it hasn't been
an issue at least for me you know and i love the way you framed it too like the
way that you see it like
you know um that it is sure those things are going to happen and that's totally
natural like to have
attraction to different people and if you just see it as that and kind of be
glad that it happens that
you have that even that function in your brain that you still even can have
that feeling that doesn't
mean that's not in you and still towards the other person uh for you know 50
times the strength
i also have a friend i'm not gonna say his name who's married has kids and
stuff who whenever he
sees her he obviously gives her fuck eyes yeah yeah like he like looks her up
and down right and if
she's turned away he'll look at her ass and all that kind of stuff you know
have like a little smile
and i watch him do it i'm fine with it bro yeah you know i get it right she's
hot yeah you know and i
don't have jealous i don't have any and after your shows i see women come up to
him they kiss him on the
cheek they want to hug him they want to flirt with him say hey come with us
have drinks and stuff
and i always i never step in and i'm happy for him that he gets to he's a cute
talented man why
wouldn't why wouldn't they be attracted to him i was attracted to him right
that's a good point yeah
it's so funny it's you know it's so interesting it's like you would want people
to be now you want
them to work with it healthily whenever they whenever they get that i saw a
girl she opened up a
hatchback and she had a bunch of wood chips back there and tried to convince
probably to get back
in there they had a water bottle in there with a little spout coming out of it
i was like damn
look empty they had a candy crush like a big size ipad one that hasn't come out
yet and he was really
tempted you could see him almost get in there i was at charlie i was at charlie
goodnight's at club
and um this is the first time this ever happened i was started first started
dating kalyla
but we're committed and she grabbed my wrist she goes let me blow you in the
bathroom oh wow
and and i went like this i went no like that is that when you went home and
changed your um facebook
status to in a relationship wow was that i knew there was something you were
compensating for
yeah i i figured you probably got a blow job at the strip no i never got a blow
job i know but i i'm
pretty sure it came close and that's why you went home and you were like i
gotta no no no no i gotta
i got yeah no no that never happened i'm and i just i don't even but he does in
the past
i i he has now we know our boundaries but in the beginning he didn't know what
a boundary was right
what it meant so in the beginning in our first year together he would do things
like text a woman like
i want to fuck you raw dog or whatever um and it was like this is postmates guy
or like he would just go out of his way to you know he would take that
temptation go a little bit
too far verbally that's what i'd do that's what i'd done um but then i just
made it really clear with
him i said look um that's my line you know you know light flirting you know
innocent stuff all good
but to tell her you have plans of fucking her raw dog yeah that's my line that's
my boundary right
and you just have to be really clear about your lines with each other in your
relationship i like
that wow i'm actually learning some stuff today yeah i mean i and i you know i
was in a relationship
and i didn't do that good of having boundaries and stuff like that and now that
i've been off
pornography i've felt a lot less tempted to really engage with women as much as
i used to
like it used to be like a lot more of a temptation for me and now it's like i
don't even
that some of that temptation is going away where it's not even it's just like a
bad habit almost
um and i don't feel like i have to just uh cling to any type of attraction that
a woman sends to me
because it was making it hard for me to you know even be in a relationship
because i was just
acknowledging other like attractions that would come in yeah i had this weird
thing that if somebody
like showed interest in me that if i didn't in some way acknowledge it or
return it even like
just like a a hug or like a swanky face or a smile or something then then like
i was like letting them
down somehow or something so i think i still have a lot to learn in that space
it's also very difficult
as a performer i think so i think that you guys are in a completely different
it's difficult um i've never
gotten attention in the same way that you guys get attention so i don't know
how i would feel
if dick was thrown my direction you know and the frequency that you know you
guys get it but you
learn from you learn from guys like that are faithful dudes you know you learn
from like greg fitz simmons
a lot of the redheads bill burr you know um half asians too steve burn oh yeah
yeah yeah al magical
oh yeah and guys like that they they're they're pretty you know daniel day cam
yeah they cam too yeah yeah monogamous guys yeah especially there's certain
guys there's certain
guys like burn or a lot of these guys that are married now that used to be
players yeah you know
i mean and they have made a choice and and um but we you and i also know a lot
of guys that don't do
that well that are just straight pussy hitchhikers yeah i do think though that
men and all men and
women need to get that out of their system yeah and especially women just fuck
as many dudes as you
can some of it's getting out of your system and some of it's like you know
these days it's almost
like you'd almost rather end up with someone too that you want to have a
partner that it's like
you guys can raise a family if you're having a family like some people they get
married it's all
based on sensuality it's nice huh and then they but then that goes away and
then they end up you
know they have two kids and they're divorced and it's like you know it's
definitely interesting to
figure out what ingredients need to be in a relationship for you know for you
to be then parents and
then it's they're never just the same ingredients for every relationship either
because i
think that bobby and i are a little atypical and what works for us certainly
might not work for
somebody else or the can't the we're very brutally honest and some people find
that really uncomfortable
that we he shares pictures with prostitutes that he's been with with me yeah
you know he's like
look at this when i fucked this girl in the motel and it doesn't really phase
me that might not work
for other people that kind of just transparency might not work for others they
call that being very
i have weird photos around my house like if you look in drawers you'll just see
me with like
oh yeah and like really seedy places on my shoulder yeah maybe with i have
wings on you know i mean i'm
on a mountaintop you know i have i've done some crazy shit yeah you just kind
of work i love his pants
on man thank you dude wow wow you know what's crazy is my sister can't even
read but what does it have
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