Name: Theo talks Forgiving Our Parents
Uploaded: 2022-05-27T01:13:29.000Z
Description: Watch the stand-up comedy video 'Theo talks Forgiving Our Parents' from Theo Von Clips on Comedy Buff. Published 2022-05-27. Transcript available.

Watch the stand-up comedy video 'Theo talks Forgiving Our Parents' from Theo Von Clips on Comedy Buff. Published 2022-05-27. Transcript available.

is forgiveness in us because i try to forgive so much but then oftentimes i
dwell on you know
why why they wronged me and this goes for my brother my dad my mom
yeah this is a good call man i appreciate it uh thank you for calling and um it's
funny this is
kind of right where i am you know during the holiday during easter i got to see
my mother
and see my brother and it's tough because it's like yeah how do how long do i
hold a grudge
you know and then because at a certain point your parents they're just getting
older
and you're missing out on whatever there is there um
and yeah i think i i i believe and it's one of the reasons why i'm trying to
recommit myself to
my program is because i believe that forgiveness is the only
answer
i believe that
letting go of whatever that hurt is
you know sometimes i felt so hurt as a kid i felt
the i hold on to that hurt because sometimes it's the only relationship i had
with my mother was uh
that i was angry at her
you know and it's all i had it's all it's the only thing that i had so it was
like so hard to let it
go it's been hard to let it go
because the only thing that i had
uh
was my anger
or my uncomfort or my pain it was so hard to let it go
it's like a blanket you know it's a
it's like i know this isn't good for me but somehow it keeps me warm a little
you know
you know the only thing i had we know when i was young
and i'm not
talking about self-pity here
or anything like that i'm just i'm trying to really examine this like
why we hold on to those things
um
because yeah all i all i for a long time all i had was my
just my anger
and my i was wronged my that that you know
it's somebody's all i had was that and when you have that from a young age with
a parent it's
um
that's pat's like it's not even you holding on to it as a conscious adult it's
this
fucking
it's this inner child that's got this claws on him you know he got them grips
the mitts baby
and so it's hard to let go of some of that
um
but i i just i just believe that the only way to do it the only way to really
get free is to have some forgiveness you know
and uh people do the best they can
you know i saw my mother this weekend and uh
and uh
and all any of us are is just kids that are just getting older
you know and just trying our best in the world
um
and sometimes it takes time you can't really force it you know but
uh
but i think we can get into practices that help us get closer to forgiveness
and um
and that's where i want to be
because at a certain point i'm tired of
uh
of the grudges i'm tired
even if i'm not the one making them even if they're from a young
i've got to talk to myself or have a relationship enough with my heart
that's like hey trust me enough
to walk us through this
and with my higher power
to say hey god help me get help me walk through this
you know help me
you know i have felt unloved or i have felt wronged or i have felt this
help me
try again
to give this person a chance to love me
because if not
i miss out twice
i miss out as a child
when i didn't
wasn't able to make a choice
when i when
when i had
it was all survival instincts that i had to
to operate from
but i miss out as an adult
when i am able to make a choice
and uh
and as hard as it is
i don't want to miss out on getting to love my mother twice
you know
and i don't know if that makes a ton of sense or not
and
fuck i don't even know if i care if it does
uh
you know it's been for me it's been a long journey with this kind of stuff
and and trying to navigate it
and and that's okay
you know um
that's okay
so
but i wish you well there brother
and uh
and just know that there's other people out there that are on this journey with
you in some ways
it could be a mother it could be a father it could be it could be a sibling
and it could be ourselves
sometimes a lot of it for me is about forgiving
myself
you know when you are
as children you think it's your fault
you you know you take some
you take so much responsibility for yourself
that if something isn't right then of course it's on me
it's on me
um
but if if stuff's on you for so long it's on me
it's on me
it's on me
you can handle that for a while
but i think at a certain point
you're right it's all on you
and it's just you
and it gets kind of lonesome
you know
and i'm not saying that in a self-pity way
i'm just saying that in like
you know i want my life to be filled with other people
and um
and so that's
hopefully that is a direction that i can
uh
head in
you know
with the help of others
and with the help of a higher power
um
you know
i've been there before
and uh
and i think i can be there again
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