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Watch the stand-up comedy video 'Tony Robbins Helps Theo Deal With Low Self Worth' from Theo Von Clips on Comedy Buff. Published 2024-01-09. Transcript available.

sometimes i have a tough time feeling proud of myself do you know what that you
know and i think
i've had other people call in our our show that have talked about that you know
what do you think
it is i don't know i feel like um i almost feel like it's just there's a
disconnect like it doesn't
even land on me or i feel like maybe if i feel like i'm proud of myself like if
i actually feel
proud of myself it'll go against some script that i've always had written or
some some thing that
was always written inside of me you know it's like it it's almost like it
wouldn't if i wrote on the
wall of myself i'm proud of you it wouldn't even show up on the wall what
emotion would you feel
if you saw that um like what emotion would i feel if i saw what i'm proud of
myself would you go
bullshit would you be pissed off by it would you be annoyed would you just know
i think i feel ashamed
to myself for even thinking it that's interesting and it produced an emotion in
you just now even
when you just thought about it i saw that flash in your eyes it's just a little
bit of water
a little bit of fluid oh yeah dude fuck we cry on here every week sorry yeah
beautiful no it's okay
but yeah we don't have any we don't have any shame about that no you shouldn't
but i'm saying liquid
leaving your body in a public place as long as through your eyes is not a
problem that's what i'm
talking about huh yeah don't ask don't ask that's right but my point is there's
a real anchor for you
there so let me explain it to you everybody has what i call an emotional home
yeah do you ever watch
like a place here and let's say you know where the cyclone happens every two or
three years it wipes
out everything or tornado comes through oh yeah and you see these poor people
all their stuff's all over
the ground and they're picking it up and you could have a heart of stone not to
feel they rebuild two
years again it happens again two years later happens again some part of you
eventually goes why don't
you move you know it's like why don't you move a lot of vietnam's like that it
floods new orleans is
like that it's like so here's why don't they move because it's home it's what
they know we have an
emotional home we have certain emotions that got built up in your youth i had
four fathers i had a
mother that was pretty intense and i had a lot of emotions that came out of
that experience if i didn't
reprogram myself i wouldn't be sitting here with you today because my emotional
home was not good feelings
that's what i was used to so even though it didn't feel good you go there
because it's what you know
yeah it's comfortable so yeah it almost like i was deserting myself if i felt
good about myself
which is crazy i'd almost feel like i was leaving i don't know yeah it's almost
like i knew those
feelings finish that thought i'm believing what well it's almost like i feel
like i know those feelings of
not feeling good about myself so well that i would be i don't want to leave
them alone because
we always had each other and it was like if i leave them you know have you ever
have you ever
had if i leave them i just i won't i don't know does that make sense though
yeah it does you want what
if i leave them i'll just be letting them down and they're not even yeah they're
not even real but
they're to part of me some part of me inside of me i can't even access they're
like his brothers
that's right they're your home yeah and by the way i i i really appreciate you
being so vulnerable
because the people watching they're seeing that allow them to be vulnerable
because you're a role
model of that it's because you're funny as but to be able to be that vulnerable
is beautiful but let
me just tell you something those are not your friends yeah you know and you're
not going to
abandon those parts of yourself you're going to find these other parts yourself
that need to be in
charge it's not to say that you can't have negative emotions or fears or
feelings but the ones that
don't support you you got to break that pattern and the way you break the
pattern first
is you start to see you get a new experience if i get you an experience where
you feel like you
actually felt proud of yourself without those feelings and there was no sense
of loss and i did
that with you for days and days you'll never go back wow because your brain
will go what the f i'm not
going back to that those weren't my friends it'd be like you know it's like
having a friend that beats
the shit out of you every single day and it's like i'm letting them down if i
don't want to beat the
shit out of me right it's like oh no i gotta be there for him because i gotta
be there so you can
beat the shit out of me that's pretty much what's happening here dude you're
like now here we go again
and so then what happens though is the reason you went for the antidepressants
is it's so overwhelming
that numbing at least feels a little less i'd rather see you cry and feel the
pain even i want you
to feel pain as a brother yeah no i'm grateful to feel it i want it out of my
system that's right
yeah but the next step for you is drawing a line in the sand of how you really
want to feel so i'll have
people in an event write down i give them like a minute i go draw a line in the
middle write down
the left side all the positive emotions you feel in an average week not once a
year not once a month
the ones you regularly feel whatever good feelings the average emotions in a
positive in a positive week
awesome so what are some ones you feel in a week in a week i feel at least once
a week okay any emotion
uh positive start with the positive positive hopeful okay um thankful yeah um
loving yeah um and
uh maybe some pride good and so so the price the pride is sneaking in now that's
not ego pride that's
pride of like you're growing well i'm learning about pride i mean it's like i
said it's really
hard for me to feel proud of myself you know so stop saying that okay because
every time you say that
you're rewiring it back into your body over and over it's a story it's like
there's an old phrase
that says tell lie big enough tell lie big enough loud enough and long enough
sooner or later people
believe that you know who said that hitler oh i think you're gonna say fauci
well same difference
we're aligned on that one you're a quicker thinker than i am but no so yeah we
hear what we're saying
the conversation you've said with yourself you've done how many times you think
you've said that
said what that you know i'm it's hard for me i you know i say it i say it a lot
yeah it's because i
yeah i think i'm yeah it's like having a new story for myself you know part of
me is still there's a
heavy bit even to my whole new story to having a new story even having some
success in my life it's
almost like some of it feels embarrassing you know and some people feel like
you know the word people
use is imposter syndrome it's all it's just fear that you're not enough we all
have that fear brother
i feel that at times i don't feel much now but i'm 63 years old and i've done a
shitload of things
for 40 years you know you've got enough patterns yeah i built up new patterns
it's like a muscle
you know everybody's got the muscle if you use it it grows if you don't use it
you lose it right it
doesn't ever disappear though it just looks like it's not there but if you
demand it you push it beyond
what it's comfortable with and that's what you're doing right now you're
pushing beyond your comfort
you were settling for comfort to try to survive now you're like f that i want
more out of this life
you know i'm not going to settle for that but then you keep telling yourself
the old story so
change your story change your life it sounds overly simplistic but it is true
no i love it i
appreciate you saying it yeah yeah i think a lot of this chat has been about
that and then but look
at the positive emotions you wrote down or you just told me verbally right so
you're hopeful you have
are you playful or funny or what would be your term around that part of you
because i didn't hear
that part of you i know it's there no i feel like that part of me became such
my work that i
haven't had as much free time to be that as i would like on your own okay cool
well so those deposits
what are the negatives you feel in an average week at least once a week not
once a month once a
year what are the negative emotions you feel um ugly okay um i feel um
incapable angry um and i feel uh
disappointing okay so which which of those emotions is most powerful for you
positive list or the negative list
the negative list is more powerful and that's true for most people watch this
what's an emotion that if it
became the dominant emotion in your life one or two it would get rid of those
negatives like they
would have any power over you what would be an emotional state would it be like
courage or to be
playfulness or to be uh uh let's say joy or would it be you've already got
gratitude more gratitude
what would be an emotion that's so strong that it would get rid of the
disappointment probably love
you know there you go and that's that's your core brother i didn't hear you say
that on the first one
that's all you really want it's probably why you do this podcast probably why
you make people laugh
me too by the way the only reason i do what i do is i love people i love to see
people out because i was
so unhappy myself and i got out of it so i was so grateful it's like i don't it's
like you know i
feed you know 100 million people a year 100 million meals that's all your
charity yeah i've done a
billion meals in the last eight years right dude that's almost that's what that's
what mcdonald's
did isn't it and it was free they're pretty cheap at mcdonald's but dang dude
but i did it not
because i'm a good person i did it because i grew up and i had no money and no
food and when i was 11
somebody came and fed us on thanksgiving and i was like that made me believe
strangers care
strangers care about me i don't care about strangers and so i fell in love with
people i want to make
people feel happy and i know what it feels like night food i know what it feels
like to be absolutely
depressed and miserable and saying do i even need to stick around in this life
right so i don't want
anybody else to feel that so it drove me to find answers not just for me once i
found it for me i wanted to
help as many people as i can but why do i want to do it because i love love
because when you help
people that much i mean i have so much love my life it's ridiculous i get
stopped on the street every
day and people don't come up and say oh i like your show or something come on
go you changed my life
oh my god i love you tony robbins and i always say no i didn't do it you did it
but i'm glad i helped
but i love the love that comes from it yeah so we all really want love but we're
afraid we're not enough
and you my friend you are growing like a weed right now because you're doing
things most people never
get out of and i'm not blowing smoke your way i'm not a bullshitter no i don't
feel i don't feel
that man i appreciate you saying it yeah it's the truth it's been yeah but you
got it you got to
notice your progress and you got you got to stack the good and then you got to
stop the old story
and the minute you start to say that phrase that's an old story it's not true
anymore yeah i think a
part of me is afraid that i'm gonna leave a part of me like um if i you know if
i even if i
be successful so let's investigate that for a second like if i be successful i'm
gonna leave
a part of me behind you know well then you're effed right now because you're
already successful
i don't know how many millions of people i'm sure that watch your podcast you
make people laugh all
over the world you have people that i think i'm embarrassed sometimes but all
those emotions are old
habits they're just habits so i understand that and by the way when you feel
embarrassed or you feel
these negative emotions yeah it also makes you feel for yourself for a little
bit so that's the
other part you might be afraid of like some people take care about that well
like for some i don't know
if this is you but some people are so busy trying to make everybody else happy
all the time
they don't take care of themselves unless it's a big ass problem and then for
the first time even
it's a negative feeling at least i'm feeling for myself i'm feeling for me and
that might be what
you're afraid of losing let's try it for a second here what if i told you you
could go back and feel
like shit as much as you want it'll never stop all right but you don't have to
have that be the
predominant emotion of your life that you this need to beat yourself up or be
ashamed or not be too
happy that it's an old story that got wired a long time ago and has nothing to
do with who you really
are but when you keep telling yourself it's like my friend i take care of i'm
gonna lose a part of
myself no you'll never lose that part there's a part of me that would be a
victim very easily i was
beat as a child my mom was a beautiful woman i'm not denigrating her when she
put but she put but
she put alcohol together with prescription drugs she was crazy and i was five
one in high school
believe it or not i'm six seven now i tell people the difference i tell people
the difference is
personal growth right but i had a tumor in my brain that made me grow but i was
this little guy she
would slam my head against that she'd put liquid soap down my throat because
she said i was lying and
i wasn't lying and when the person you love most is trying to hurt you you can
do a number on your head
but i look back now and fortunately i didn't let that stop me and i didn't
settle for that i struggled
for a long time i look back and i can honestly tell you if she was the mother i'd
hope she'd been
like if i was well fed do you really think i'd be trying to feed a bill you
know i've done a billion
people now i'm trying to feed 100 billion people you think i would be spending
my time doing that if i
was a well-fed kid i don't think so if she had been a mother i want i wouldn't
become the man i'm proud to
be yeah so those emotions are not you they were a part of your past they were a
pattern it's a pattern of what you do with your body and breathe but it meets
some of your needs to
feel feel yourself or feel sorry for yourself or feel sad right you follow me
it's like a self-pity
thing a little bit but what you're really wanting is not self-pity you're
wanting self-love you just
haven't learned how to give it to yourself my way of doing that is gratitude
because when you're grateful
love flows naturally is that a common pattern that sometimes because i noticed
over like a couple about
two years ago i noticed that i one of my biggest addictions sometimes was self-pity
i didn't even realize it
yeah yeah i thought i was helping myself by like focusing on myself but really
i'd been too i was
feeling too pitiful yeah i i didn't it was it was man it was i realized my
alcohol was self-pity
anytime i didn't also also alcohol is a depressant so what's going to do is low
it feels good in the
moment but then it lowers your energy and your blood sugar everything right
same for self-pity
self-pity same thing now your energy think about it self-pity if you're in self-pity
right now zero to
ten ten ten is total high energy zero is no energy where are you in self-pity
where would you put it
oh two yeah where are you when you're feeling excited um where's my energy zero
to ten yeah uh my
energy when i'm feeling excited is like a nine yeah which one do you want to be
i'd rather be the nine
yeah why the fuck why don't you just do that i know
Thank you.

Tony Robbins Helps Theo Deal With Low Self Worth

sometimes i have a tough time feeling proud of myself do you know what that you
know and i think
i've had other people call in our our show that have talked about that you know
what do you think
it is i don't know i feel like um i almost feel like it's just there's a
disconnect like it doesn't
even land on me or i feel like maybe if i feel like i'm proud of myself like if
i actually feel
proud of myself it'll go against some script that i've always had written or
some some thing that
was always written inside of me you know it's like it it's almost like it
wouldn't if i wrote on the
wall of myself i'm proud of you it wouldn't even show up on the wall what
emotion would you feel
if you saw that um like what emotion would i feel if i saw what i'm proud of
myself would you go
bullshit would you be pissed off by it would you be annoyed would you just know
i think i feel ashamed
to myself for even thinking it that's interesting and it produced an emotion in
you just now even
when you just thought about it i saw that flash in your eyes it's just a little
bit of water
a little bit of fluid oh yeah dude fuck we cry on here every week sorry yeah
beautiful no it's okay
but yeah we don't have any we don't have any shame about that no you shouldn't
but i'm saying liquid
leaving your body in a public place as long as through your eyes is not a
problem that's what i'm
talking about huh yeah don't ask don't ask that's right but my point is there's
a real anchor for you
there so let me explain it to you everybody has what i call an emotional home
yeah do you ever watch
like a place here and let's say you know where the cyclone happens every two or
three years it wipes
out everything or tornado comes through oh yeah and you see these poor people
all their stuff's all over
the ground and they're picking it up and you could have a heart of stone not to
feel they rebuild two
years again it happens again two years later happens again some part of you
eventually goes why don't
you move you know it's like why don't you move a lot of vietnam's like that it
floods new orleans is
like that it's like so here's why don't they move because it's home it's what
they know we have an
emotional home we have certain emotions that got built up in your youth i had
four fathers i had a
mother that was pretty intense and i had a lot of emotions that came out of
that experience if i didn't
reprogram myself i wouldn't be sitting here with you today because my emotional
home was not good feelings
that's what i was used to so even though it didn't feel good you go there
because it's what you know
yeah it's comfortable so yeah it almost like i was deserting myself if i felt
good about myself
which is crazy i'd almost feel like i was leaving i don't know yeah it's almost
like i knew those
feelings finish that thought i'm believing what well it's almost like i feel
like i know those feelings of
not feeling good about myself so well that i would be i don't want to leave
them alone because
we always had each other and it was like if i leave them you know have you ever
have you ever
had if i leave them i just i won't i don't know does that make sense though
yeah it does you want what
if i leave them i'll just be letting them down and they're not even yeah they're
not even real but
they're to part of me some part of me inside of me i can't even access they're
like his brothers
that's right they're your home yeah and by the way i i i really appreciate you
being so vulnerable
because the people watching they're seeing that allow them to be vulnerable
because you're a role
model of that it's because you're funny as but to be able to be that vulnerable
is beautiful but let
me just tell you something those are not your friends yeah you know and you're
not going to
abandon those parts of yourself you're going to find these other parts yourself
that need to be in
charge it's not to say that you can't have negative emotions or fears or
feelings but the ones that
don't support you you got to break that pattern and the way you break the
pattern first
is you start to see you get a new experience if i get you an experience where
you feel like you
actually felt proud of yourself without those feelings and there was no sense
of loss and i did
that with you for days and days you'll never go back wow because your brain
will go what the f i'm not
going back to that those weren't my friends it'd be like you know it's like
having a friend that beats
the shit out of you every single day and it's like i'm letting them down if i
don't want to beat the
shit out of me right it's like oh no i gotta be there for him because i gotta
be there so you can
beat the shit out of me that's pretty much what's happening here dude you're
like now here we go again
and so then what happens though is the reason you went for the antidepressants
is it's so overwhelming
that numbing at least feels a little less i'd rather see you cry and feel the
pain even i want you
to feel pain as a brother yeah no i'm grateful to feel it i want it out of my
system that's right
yeah but the next step for you is drawing a line in the sand of how you really
want to feel so i'll have
people in an event write down i give them like a minute i go draw a line in the
middle write down
the left side all the positive emotions you feel in an average week not once a
year not once a month
the ones you regularly feel whatever good feelings the average emotions in a
positive in a positive week
awesome so what are some ones you feel in a week in a week i feel at least once
a week okay any emotion
uh positive start with the positive positive hopeful okay um thankful yeah um
loving yeah um and
uh maybe some pride good and so so the price the pride is sneaking in now that's
not ego pride that's
pride of like you're growing well i'm learning about pride i mean it's like i
said it's really
hard for me to feel proud of myself you know so stop saying that okay because
every time you say that
you're rewiring it back into your body over and over it's a story it's like
there's an old phrase
that says tell lie big enough tell lie big enough loud enough and long enough
sooner or later people
believe that you know who said that hitler oh i think you're gonna say fauci
well same difference
we're aligned on that one you're a quicker thinker than i am but no so yeah we
hear what we're saying
the conversation you've said with yourself you've done how many times you think
you've said that
said what that you know i'm it's hard for me i you know i say it i say it a lot
yeah it's because i
yeah i think i'm yeah it's like having a new story for myself you know part of
me is still there's a
heavy bit even to my whole new story to having a new story even having some
success in my life it's
almost like some of it feels embarrassing you know and some people feel like
you know the word people
use is imposter syndrome it's all it's just fear that you're not enough we all
have that fear brother
i feel that at times i don't feel much now but i'm 63 years old and i've done a
shitload of things
for 40 years you know you've got enough patterns yeah i built up new patterns
it's like a muscle
you know everybody's got the muscle if you use it it grows if you don't use it
you lose it right it
doesn't ever disappear though it just looks like it's not there but if you
demand it you push it beyond
what it's comfortable with and that's what you're doing right now you're
pushing beyond your comfort
you were settling for comfort to try to survive now you're like f that i want
more out of this life
you know i'm not going to settle for that but then you keep telling yourself
the old story so
change your story change your life it sounds overly simplistic but it is true
no i love it i
appreciate you saying it yeah yeah i think a lot of this chat has been about
that and then but look
at the positive emotions you wrote down or you just told me verbally right so
you're hopeful you have
are you playful or funny or what would be your term around that part of you
because i didn't hear
that part of you i know it's there no i feel like that part of me became such
my work that i
haven't had as much free time to be that as i would like on your own okay cool
well so those deposits
what are the negatives you feel in an average week at least once a week not
once a month once a
year what are the negative emotions you feel um ugly okay um i feel um
incapable angry um and i feel uh
disappointing okay so which which of those emotions is most powerful for you
positive list or the negative list
the negative list is more powerful and that's true for most people watch this
what's an emotion that if it
became the dominant emotion in your life one or two it would get rid of those
negatives like they
would have any power over you what would be an emotional state would it be like
courage or to be
playfulness or to be uh uh let's say joy or would it be you've already got
gratitude more gratitude
what would be an emotion that's so strong that it would get rid of the
disappointment probably love
you know there you go and that's that's your core brother i didn't hear you say
that on the first one
that's all you really want it's probably why you do this podcast probably why
you make people laugh
me too by the way the only reason i do what i do is i love people i love to see
people out because i was
so unhappy myself and i got out of it so i was so grateful it's like i don't it's
like you know i
feed you know 100 million people a year 100 million meals that's all your
charity yeah i've done a
billion meals in the last eight years right dude that's almost that's what that's
what mcdonald's
did isn't it and it was free they're pretty cheap at mcdonald's but dang dude
but i did it not
because i'm a good person i did it because i grew up and i had no money and no
food and when i was 11
somebody came and fed us on thanksgiving and i was like that made me believe
strangers care
strangers care about me i don't care about strangers and so i fell in love with
people i want to make
people feel happy and i know what it feels like night food i know what it feels
like to be absolutely
depressed and miserable and saying do i even need to stick around in this life
right so i don't want
anybody else to feel that so it drove me to find answers not just for me once i
found it for me i wanted to
help as many people as i can but why do i want to do it because i love love
because when you help
people that much i mean i have so much love my life it's ridiculous i get
stopped on the street every
day and people don't come up and say oh i like your show or something come on
go you changed my life
oh my god i love you tony robbins and i always say no i didn't do it you did it
but i'm glad i helped
but i love the love that comes from it yeah so we all really want love but we're
afraid we're not enough
and you my friend you are growing like a weed right now because you're doing
things most people never
get out of and i'm not blowing smoke your way i'm not a bullshitter no i don't
feel i don't feel
that man i appreciate you saying it yeah it's the truth it's been yeah but you
got it you got to
notice your progress and you got you got to stack the good and then you got to
stop the old story
and the minute you start to say that phrase that's an old story it's not true
anymore yeah i think a
part of me is afraid that i'm gonna leave a part of me like um if i you know if
i even if i
be successful so let's investigate that for a second like if i be successful i'm
gonna leave
a part of me behind you know well then you're effed right now because you're
already successful
i don't know how many millions of people i'm sure that watch your podcast you
make people laugh all
over the world you have people that i think i'm embarrassed sometimes but all
those emotions are old
habits they're just habits so i understand that and by the way when you feel
embarrassed or you feel
these negative emotions yeah it also