Name: Taking The Easy Route Won't Make You Happy
Uploaded: 2024-01-11T19:00:01.000Z
Description: Watch the stand-up comedy video 'Taking The Easy Route Won't Make You Happy' from Theo Von Clips on Comedy Buff. Published 2024-01-11. Transcript available.

Watch the stand-up comedy video 'Taking The Easy Route Won't Make You Happy' from Theo Von Clips on Comedy Buff. Published 2024-01-11. Transcript available.

the path of least resistance never makes you happy it's like it does you have
to push yourself when
people talk about self-esteem i hate this term like so many kids were taught to
get a participation
trophy for something and they thought i'm gonna build their self-esteem this
way people can tell
your whole life you're a piece of crap and your brain goes screw you i'll show
you and you become
somebody people your whole life can tell you you're beautiful you're perfect
you're the best
and you can still not believe them be depressed about your life and think you're
nobody
your life self-esteem your self-esteem esteem for yourself is earned by you
doing something
difficult for you when you do something that's incredibly hard and you push
through it your brain
starts to have inner pride not fake ego pride right so you're saying none of
that other so that outside
of stuff doesn't really matter your self-esteem is truly based on your
relationship with yourself yes
and your ability to grow i mean what makes people happy progress if you get
some big goal you don't
see a lot of them in your life right there's one of two responses when you
achieve the goal yeah
horrible one is is this all there is which a lot of people do after fighting
for a goal
and this is all there oh yeah but the but the other one is let's say oh this is
amazing how long does
that amazing feeling of achieving your goal last six years a year six months
six days six hours what
would you say um the actual for me it doesn't last really long i don't feel
that kind of stuff very
much yeah well also you'd be numb by those drugs right but for most people
somewhere between six hours and
probably six weeks right so not super long no and so the purpose of life is not
just to get your goals
your goals or you're getting what you want doesn't make you happy what makes
you happy is who you
become in pursuit of those goals so the growth the progress even if you don't
achieve it yet but you
start losing weight or you start building muscle you start making your
relationship better or you start
to build a business the building the progress is what makes you feel alive
because we're all made to
either grow or die if your relationship's not growing it's dying if your
business is not growing it's dying
there's no in between that doesn't work so and when you grow you have something
to give and what makes
people fulfilled is growing and giving sharing it with somebody because there's
only so much joy you
can have by yourself drugs alcohol entertainment sex with yourself whatever by
yourself there's a limit to
what you can feel that's why whenever something great happens most of us want
to tell someone share with
somebody we love because when you share it it magnifies it so that's really
what we're trying to show
people is how to create that kind of progress and the problem in new year's is
as you said
a resolution is just like what do i want and they don't think about any depth
they say it and then
here's the problem yeah they don't take it beyond that they have no plan right
or it's a very simple
plan oh yeah and by february one by the first of february 95 of those things
are already broken
but what they're really oh yeah is there's like my new year's resolution in december
you know well you need a path and so if you want to make your relationship
better your business
better your life better it starts with knowing what you want you can say what
do i want why do i want
it and what kind of person would i have to be to have that stay and then you
got a second step where
you got to tell yourself find and tell yourself the truth which is there's a
gap between where i am
and where i want to be and don't yourself don't go i'm a little overweight or i'm
fat because i'm big
boned no you're fat because you have poor habits right that's how it works yeah
some people yeah i remember
this people always like he'll grow out of it and i'm like dude he's 34. like my
buddy's grandma's
like it's just baby fat he'll grow out of it it's like we all have different
but it's like he ain't
you know ronnie ain't growing the reason you don't grow out of it is you have
to see what's causing you
to have that gap and it's one of only a couple things either you got fear so
you're not taking action
or you might have for example uh some limiting beliefs like it never works i've
tried everything the
good ones are gone so you don't even begin or you might have some emotion gets
in the way or a bad
habit or maybe just missing the skill like no one's ever taught you how to make
money or grow a business
or have a great relationship so you're learning on the job and it's painful to
learn the job so i've
always said find somebody who's extraordinary at something or many people
figure out what they're
doing and do that it's called modeling instead of reinventing the wheel now you're
going to add
yourself to it yeah but modeling gives you the pathway to power and then once
you know what you
want while you want it you're honest about the gap you come up with a quick
plan not a perfect one and
you start taking action and then you face your demons you slay your dragons
what needs to change
like okay i'm never going to have a relationship if i'm numb all the time so i
gotta i gotta change
this it's hard but i'm gonna i'm gonna do the hard thing right and when you do
the hard thing you get
momentum and then what was hard becomes easy after a while and that's really
the secret for changes to
last it has to become your identity let me explain we all have a way of
defining ourselves to ourselves
for example if you see lance armstrong right was the greatest biker of all time
he gets told that he
has cancer not just cancer cancer in his lungs cancer in his brain and oh yeah
in your testicles oh by
the way i ride a bike for a living because i was gonna die but his core belief
is i always find the
way so he's survived cancer most people don't he also found a way to win no
matter what he broke the
rules to do it and that cost his brand and so forth but the same thing that
made him healthy actually got him
into trouble in the biking side but before he used drugs he was still
unbelievable one of the best in
the world and guess what he got there because of a belief so you have to have a
new identity his
identity is i find the way made him healthy so think of it this way if i set
the thermostat in this
room that i think you'll relate to this let's say 68 degrees okay all right and
that's a metaphor for
your comfort zone your identity this is you know that's 68 degrees is how much
not much money i want but
what you know what i'm used to 68 degrees is what i'm used to in a relationship
it's not it's not what
i want but it's okay you know it's pretty good it's what i know you know so
think about his comfort
zone now if the temperature drops to 65 64 62 59 all of a sudden the brain the
computer goes hey
you're a 68 degree or what are you doing at 59 and i'm sure you've experienced
it like this is
bullshit and they're like boom suddenly the heaters kick on and you got drive
and you go deal with it you go
lose the weight or you get off the drugs you do whatever it is but here's the
part that most
people understand let's say you get back to where you were and now you get new
momentum and you're
doing better you go to 69 70 80 89 99 degrees and also the brain goes what the
hell are you doing up
here you're a 68 degree you're not a 99 greer and the first thing that happens
is the heater stop and
you stop growing and then if that's not enough the air conditioners kick on and
you start to sabotage
yourself to get back to where you believe you are so cigarettes if you used to
smoke right so if i came
to you today and i offer you a cigarette what would you say yes sir you'd say
buddy or nobody no sir no
sir no sir nobody okay you know so why i don't want it yeah why because i don't
doesn't make me happy
anymore yeah most people you wouldn't say what brand is it yeah you go no and
the reason why is you're no
longer a smoker it's not your identity ah if you thought you're a smoker you
might go well what
brand is it well maybe i'll have one you know whatever it is right it's like
when people tell
me you know i'm on day four of not drinking or not smoking i'll go why are you
counting so you can tell
people how many days you last this time before you go back again it's like when
you change your identity
i'm not one of those you're not going to do it anymore so you are in the midst
of transforming your
identity you're in the middle of it right now and you're doing a beautiful job
i'm not again blowing
smoke i'm not a bullshitter thanks man no but i hope you take it in because you
need to own
that on your own your own instincts have led you to a place of real progress
you're not there yet not
where you want to be and by the way when you get wherever there is it won't be
enough you'll want
to do more because we're all supposed to keep growing that's what makes us
happy
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