Name: How To Cut Out The Noise, And Find Your Calling
Uploaded: 2024-05-17T16:33:02.000Z
Description: Watch the stand-up comedy video 'How To Cut Out The Noise, And Find Your Calling' from Theo Von Clips on Comedy Buff. Published 2024-05-17. Transcript available.

Watch the stand-up comedy video 'How To Cut Out The Noise, And Find Your Calling' from Theo Von Clips on Comedy Buff. Published 2024-05-17. Transcript available.

When it comes to like individuality, right, what is a good way for people to
start to get to know themselves?
Does it make sense to you what I'm asking, Kevin?
Yeah, it does.
Well, I keep coming back to something that I tell a lot of people I think is
very important is the desire to know yourself.
So people are very good at faking it.
And you could be out there listening and go, yeah, I kind of want to know
myself better.
Okay, let me get online and get, you know, they just forget about it because
the other forces are stronger than them.
You have to have a level, you know, that if you're in recovery, a level of disgust,
you have to hit bottom.
You have to go, I don't want to be like this anymore.
I want to find out who I am.
I want to touch that core of individuality that I know is still within me.
That soul that I believe is still there.
You have to have the desire.
If there's no desire there, if you're just mimicking, if you're just saying it
just for the sake of it because it sounds good, I can't help you.
But if it's still there, yeah, you want to start by, I mean, there are many
paths you can take.
A very good path is to take a journal and start journaling, right?
And writing down your thoughts and writing down your dreams.
And when I say that, I say, don't do it on a computer.
I mean, I know a lot of young people don't know how to handwrite anymore, but
pick up a pen.
I still handwrite a lot of things.
Pick up a pen and a journal and write it down.
Dreams, I know this sounds woo-woo, but it's not.
Dreams are really powerful, very interesting.
They're going to tell you a lot about yourself, right?
It's going to tell you about those journeys your brain takes at night that are
pretty fantastical.
Okay, you write that down, you go back into your childhood and you go, what was
it that made me so different, that was so weird about me?
What was it that I was attracted to?
As you go through that process, things will start coming up.
It's like you're digging, you're excavating, you're an archaeologist into your
own past.
Yeah, it's like using a brush and brushing off and you see a little bit of bone
and then you're like, what other questions can I ask around here that might
help me remove a little more dirt?
Yeah, and memories will come up like your memory when you're two years old and
your brother popping up his head.
Things will start coming back to you and you'll start connecting to who you
were when you were young and you're connecting to who you were as an adolescent.
Adolescence is an extremely important part of our life.
It really is almost the most formative part.
It's where we really made that turn into this or into that, right?
And I find returning to your adolescence, returning to those strong, powerful
emotions that you felt, those sexual things that were just so overwhelming,
those other things that were happening, returning to that because people,
psychologists have studied, that is the period when you feel what makes you
different the most, right?
It's when you feel the most rebellious, when you understand, this is who I am.
I'm not like my parents.
You're 13, you're 14, all of a sudden you go, I don't have to be like mom or
dad.
In fact, I want to be totally different.
Adolescence is like a really key thing to go deep into.
That will show you a lot about your individuality, about who you are and about
who you've become.
So it's a process and it should be a very exciting process.
Right, right.
You shouldn't look at, yeah, that's the thing.
If you look at it, it's like, oh, shit, I got to do this, you know, but to
carve out a little time where you're like, yeah, let me think, whatever some
things, look at old photos and stuff like that.
Really look at yourself a little bit like you're studying something, you know?
Even listen to the music that you liked, however embarrassing that might be.
Yeah, you know, is there is there like certain ways or times or moments that
you would create for yourself or that you would suggest people create for
themselves to try and hear that that voice of purpose?
Well, it's a very interesting question and it's a very difficult one because I
get a lot of people writing to me saying, you know, Robert, I hear what you
said.
I've read your book, but I have no idea.
I can't hear it anymore.
Right.
I'm lost.
Right.
Because there's still a lot of guys who are young adolescents and middle aged
and who are like, well, I still don't know what my purpose is.
Yeah, well, so when you're younger, there's hope.
Like when you're 16, you'll find it, man.
And I've helped people who are younger find that path.
It's easier.
By the time you're 30 or 40, it gets more and more difficult.
When you're 50, I don't know.
It's possible, but it's harder and harder and harder.
I didn't really find my niche, if you will, until I was about 38 years old.
But until then, I knew it was writing.
I just couldn't figure out what kind of writing.
But you have to go through a process.
The problem that most people have is they're not connected to themselves.
They're too outer-directed.
They're not inner-directed.
So what you need to be doing is you need to be looking at yourself, not
listening to others, not listening to what's on social media, not listening to
what your peers are saying, but listening to yourself, who you are, what really,
truly excites you.
You have to cut out all that other stuff that your parents told you that other
people are telling you.
And so you're looking for signs of things that bring back—you're looking for
your childhood again, for that child inside of you that got so excited about
those things but that you forgot.
Yeah.
There is not a child on the planet that doesn't have that.
Does everyone have the chance to find their purpose?
Say if somebody, like, you know, they accidentally got a girlfriend pregnant in
high school, something like that, they, you know, and they got really put off
track, developed a lot more responsibility.
Because sometimes responsibility takes away the freedom that you have, even
just the space in your life to feel anything.
But those people aren't—they don't not have a purpose.
Maybe they just haven't been able to reach it.
Well, yeah.
I mean, these things happen to everyone.
We're all human beings.
We're flawed.
We don't have—we can't see the future, especially when we're young.
We make mistakes.
We do things that we will later regret, et cetera.
And I've dealt with people who say, you know, I'm stuck in a horrible, horrible
job.
I have—just like your scenario, I have a child I have to support, a family to
support, and I'm flipping burgers.
I'm working at Dairy Queen.
I don't care whatever it is, right?
Yeah.
What do I do?
Selling things, selling, yeah, braiding hair at the beach, something like that.
Or telemarketing back in the day.
Yeah.
You know, so what do I do?
Well, the first thing you have to do is you have to realize that you have to
want to get out of it,
and you have to want it badly enough.
So you've got to figure out a path out of this trap that you're in.
And it is a trap because if you're living paycheck to paycheck, it becomes a
habit, and it's going to stay with you your whole life.
So every time there isn't a paycheck, you're going to freak out, and you're
going to go get the quickest, easiest job that you can get.
You have to break out of that.
So I tell people, even in the most despondent circumstances, first of all,
think of what is that childhood thing that you loved.
It doesn't have to be a very specific job.
It's just something that excited you.
All right?
Okay.
We want to start moving in that direction.
So let's say you're flipping burgers, but what really excites you is video
games and programming, which is fine.
That could be a path in life.
Right?
But you want to be a programmer.
You want to be the person creating video games.
All right?
So let's do some research.
What is the first step that usually, what's the entry-level job that people
take?
What is the education that will lead to that kind of thing?
All right?
Here's step, it's like three possibilities.
You go to school, you study this, you get a job doing that, whatever.
Okay?
You can choose one of them.
Right?
And you're going to start doing it right away.
So you still have your job.
You're still paying for your family.
But you're going to go to school at night.
You're going to take a side job.
When you go home at night, you're going to study things on the internet, which
is an amazing resource that nobody had 30 years ago.
You're going to learn new skills in your spare time, you know, even in the only
two or three hours a day that you have.
You're going to create a little space in your brain for moving in that
direction, a little wedge that's going to open up.
And I've had this feedback, just knowing that that's happening, that's just
knowing that's a possibility, that I don't have to be flipping burgers, that I
don't have to be this horrifying, soul-sucking salesman my whole life, and that
I can go this other route.
It's enough to excite the hell out of you.
It's enough to get you out of it.
It's enough to give your life some meaning and some purpose.
Yeah.
And then you will build, you will follow that sort of thing.
That energy, it's like it really becomes a magnet in your life.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.