Name: Why Are So Many Young Men Afraid to Talk to Women?
Uploaded: 2024-05-23T15:00:27.000Z
Description: Watch the stand-up comedy video 'Why Are So Many Young Men Afraid to Talk to Women?' from Theo Von Clips on Comedy Buff. Published 2024-05-23. Transcript available.

Watch the stand-up comedy video 'Why Are So Many Young Men Afraid to Talk to Women?' from Theo Von Clips on Comedy Buff. Published 2024-05-23. Transcript available.

but one thing that always creates imagination in people is love i feel like
that's something that
like you know um always like the risk of the siren in the distance you know
always was the
that was a big factor for me i think yeah yeah yeah that always like sparked my
imagination
from whether i was writing a girl a poetry or making a uh a collage doing
something you know
trying to create romance or something or figuring out how to seduce her and how
to strategize and
where to take her and what would impress her and all that other stuff yeah yeah
and i mean i don't
even think i guess i didn't think of it it's weird because you think of it i
guess seduction isn't just
sexual is it oh okay so yeah because i would think about like yeah what could i
go do that's nice with
my girl what would be what would make her care about me what would make me show
her that i care
about her i loved that stuff when i was young yeah me too you know yeah i mean
uh i think um online
porn has definitely degraded those skills oh it's ruined so much i'm amazed
that we allow it i mean
you used to be uh like if you wanted to meet you're feeling lonely you'd go to
a party or a bar or something
you had it took some guts you had to like get out out of your house you had to
take the risk of
somebody saying no you know and you you were kind of afraid and timid yeah you're
kind of trembling
and then maybe you had a few beers and things went a little bit better but it
took like a skill that you
had to develop a people skill but if everything is so quick and instant you're
you're you're afraid
so many young men are afraid of women they get in their early 20s they don't
know how to approach them
yeah because they've never had to approach them they've never had to deal with
the fact that somebody
could reject them because it's just right there you have to deal with it never
rejected so then no
interaction so then this yeah this weird feeling of weird fear i had a ton i
was definitely
too much pornography too really yeah my 20s dude bad news dude jerking my yeah
just jerking my body
off or just looking at porno this is in the earlier days of porn this was yeah
15 years ago 13 years
ago or whatever yeah how much long ago was it yeah it just was bad man i would
yeah well sometimes i would
even set a date up and then instead of going on the date i would end up looking
at some pornography
and then just cancel the date all right yeah it's like why am i gonna go on
this because i think
probably some of it was nerves i didn't want to have to go but then also it was
like i you just
found a loophole to make yourself feel sexually gratified but the long-term
effects of that miserable
man because then i started thinking anytime i was like engaging in sexual
activity i would think of
it in almost like camera shots or something oh my god you know what i'm saying
like it was all like
um and i didn't even realize it but it wasn't like in a moment it was just like
i'd almost be
just watching um yeah like it wasn't i wasn't in the moment even the way i saw
it right right it was
i'd seen it so many times this way wow that i couldn't break the pattern wow
that's really scary
oh no idea yeah it was worth it was tough man ruined yeah ruined um some
relationships that i was
in no and i'm not trying to be self-pity i'm just saying yeah that i was a
certainly not even a victim
of it i can i did it you know and i wish that it hadn't been there because i do
miss the days when i
would just lay at home and just scream like where are all the chicks you know
and just jerk off that
way you know instead of at least like yeah looking at the screen or whatever
but and then their bodies
could never measure up to what what you saw yeah the lighting is never it's all
it's never the same
it's never the same so then next time a girl comes over your place you have 700
watt bulbs in the ceiling
she's like what the hell's going on but dude there was nothing that's what drew
you out into the world
as a man the fantasy even going to europe or whatever what if i meet a someone
on the corner
smoking a cigarette okay i remember when i worked in this hotel in paris i was
21 it was the hotel
where all of the models would stay wow dude oh my god i would hide under a bed
it was like paradise
you know i die in god heaven and there was this guy who kept showing up at the
hotel his name was eduardo
he was this tall brazilian man this is kind of where the art of seduction came
from i would watch
this guy he was so smooth he had every skill in the book wow he was so relaxed
that when women were
around him they just melted right and so i was thinking what is this power that
this guy has yeah
he was he was pretty good looking he wasn't the most handsome person in the
world but he had some
kind of skill that he had developed and you know he had crafted it coming to
this hotel partially
you know because he had seduced so many of the models staying there pressing
what is it about him
and i was kind of fascinated by him and i became friends with him briefly and i
realized it was his
confidence his calmness there was nothing defensive about him and the fact of
him being so undefensive
made him incredibly charming to women what does undefensive mean he's not
insecure yeah he's not
thinking about himself he's not in the moment with a woman going what do i need
to say to impress her
he's not there at all he's like so on them on them inside their mind so relaxed
and not thinking about
himself that's that's what i mean eduardo eduardo where is he now god um
probably with some chick
probably well he's now he's gonna be in his 60s or 70s that ain't stopping him
dude i'll tell you that
maybe not maybe not gosh yeah i think seeing somebody be like oh i was always
shocked when
a guy was good with the girls i was like who is this yeah wizard yeah who is
this damn wizard yeah
and there were people like that they had they had something about them and it
wasn't just looks
no dude i yeah i mean it was not it's just a comfortability uh sometimes there
are moments i
would get into that state where i would be fearless with women very rarely but
um it's gotten better as
i've gotten older but yeah when i was young it was so hard just to like even
look at a girl and talk at
the same time i i don't even know i feel like my legs were just going to climb
right into my butt
this is so scary well we've all been there yeah um is that what propelled you
out into europe were
you a ladies man growing up i had a period my 20s were a bit like that yeah and
then they then
i kind of grew out of it for whatever reason um what do you mean grew out of it
it got tiring
odys chase and women kind of yeah and it felt like um it felt like something
you know like
it's okay when you're in your 20s you're young you look good you've got energy
you got spirit
you start getting into your 30s you start getting into your 40s and it seems
kind of pathetic
yeah it doesn't seem that's how my my maybe if you're mc jagger it's not
pathetic yeah but for me it's
felt like it doesn't feel right anymore but when i was in my 20s i'm not saying
i was i wasn't on the
level of eduardo no way man but you know uh the interest was there i was
aspiring to be in his league
let's put it that way and were you brave with women like were you brave enough
to go talk to him and
stuff because part of that is learning just the art like learning even being in
the dance like i never
even put myself in the dance so many times i'm like dude you got to at least
get on the get in the
interaction moment you know well the key to me that i learned um and maybe it's
just me is that
if you're really interested in her if you're really excited by her if it's not
just about sex but
there's something about her that excites you it'll bring something out of you
that you that you didn't
think was in you right it'll bring energy out of you it will make you they will
feel that your
excitement and your interest they'll see that it's not mechanical that's not
just about sex that you're
genuinely interested in them that will relax them which in turn will relax you
back and forth back and
forth so if you choose somebody that you genuinely or feel a connection to and
it's also sexual it'll have
this kind of reverberating effect where you will bring out your net i i
remember sometimes i'd be
funnier than i've ever been in my whole life i'd be wittier i'd be an actor i'd
be saying all kinds of
weird things and you know they brought it out of me but then other women know
nothing at all like
that i'd be nervous it didn't happen but that kind of magic happens when it's
like a real a real
connection there's purpose there yeah kind of like even what we're saying
earlier about purpose showing
up how does it that it shows up yeah that there's something there if you can
navigate it that that a
moment there's something
there's some energy there that shows up that connects you to your purpose yeah
it's very similar
to the energy that shows up to connect you to a woman in a way i would say yeah
or someone of the opposite sex yeah