Name: Louis Theroux Explains the Controversial Story Behind His New Doc "Tell Them You Love Me"
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Description: Watch the stand-up comedy video 'Louis Theroux Explains the Controversial Story Behind His New Doc "Tell Them You Love Me"' from Theo Von Clips on Comedy Buff. Published 2024-06-28. Transcript available.

Watch the stand-up comedy video 'Louis Theroux Explains the Controversial Story Behind His New Doc "Tell Them You Love Me"' from Theo Von Clips on Comedy Buff. Published 2024-06-28. Transcript available.

and i think part of my gift if i may put it like that you've really seen some
of my programs that's
a thrill where would you have seen them i don't watch your new well i watch the
new documentary
which i do want to talk about shout that out i want to talk about that yeah i'm
not in that one
that one's i'm executive producer of that one if it's the one i'm thinking of
we tell them you love
me tell them you love me oh it was great it's i mean it's dark it was fat i did
not see some of
the turn that it took it's extraordinary yeah can i set it up very briefly i
thought i was going to
ask you no because i want people to go watch it because it really was good yeah
it really was
good it's like a true crime kind of psychology psychological thriller drama you
will love it
if you like true crime type of stuff um i think you will absolutely love it in
in a twisty turny
i can't believe what i'm watching kind of away it's about a philosophy
professor and a very disabled
young black guy who's uh non-verbal and has always been assumed to have a you
know cognitive significant
cognitive impairment and she she's a philosophy professor and she starts
working with him and
appears to unlock all kinds of special abilities and his family the young guy derek
his family is
obviously thrilled he starts going to college he's having philosophical
conversations with her
um i don't know if he's writing poetry but he's he's sort of writing essays and
they they they have
this meeting of minds and according to her version they fall in love and they
strike up a physical
relationship but then questions start being raised about the nature of the
technique that she's using
to open up uh his abilities his alleged abilities and then the abilities come
under question and
his family derek's family start feeling actually he doesn't have the special
abilities and this isn't
a thrilling story about love across the divide it's actually abuse and she gets
prosecuted and sent to
prison so you're all the way along you're trying to figure out what really
happened it's on yeah it blew my
mind because there's so many little things well and one of the things that you
have to know or that helps
to know if you're a listener is that one of the ways she that the teacher anna
stubblefield is her name
that she would um help derek because he basically at first you see him or you
think of him and you think
there's not a real him in there well there's a there's a well i don't want to
say that no offense
but my people my listen no i don't know i'm trying my best but when you look at
him there's a him in
there but you don't know how much of him there is and it's hard for us to see a
lot of times the
person that is inside sometimes of a person that has a severe physical
disability yeah i i he's there
but he's and he's just got a profound disability and that's you don't know the
nature of what is capable
of right and and she starts she starts teaching he she starts becoming she the
facilitate the way that
they you that they start to communicate it's called facilitated communication
in essence what happens is
she's called anna anna i can't get you saying anna but that's how she says it
so and and the derrick's
mom's called um daisy and it becomes almost a custody battle between them and
the first inkling that
something's wrong is that uh anna starts saying like daisy will put some meat
and potatoes down and
and anna will go like well derrick really doesn't like meat he's a vegetarian
and his mom's like what
and and he doesn't listen and she'll put gospel music on there from a churchy
family and and and anna
goes like derrick doesn't really doesn't like gospel he prefers classical and
um he likes he drinks red wine
and you know and he prefers cabernet and like all these sort of markers of of
of of what might be
construed as sort of elite or slightly refined oh i didn't even think about
yeah so there's a sort of
class thing like and so days like what gospel is not good enough for him
anymore like she's she feels offended like the
son that she's always known is being is being kind of taken away from her right
and it's almost like a
power play like i know him better than i'm not saying that as anna meets but
that's certainly how it
come across to a mother and especially i think also a black mother probably who's
like yo he's not going
to eat my cooking right because he's a vegetarian like he only eats nut cutlets
now yeah yeah he only
eats like shortbreads or whatever he eats corn and and and if you like i'm not
trying to mischaracterize
at all we're joking around which he only has a booyah base or whatever yeah
yeah he said he was a
vegetarian yeah and that's insane first of all yeah to say that a black guy's a
vegetarian is
absolutely nobody's gonna believe that dude name 70 black vegetarians dude okay
maybe arthur ash was one
but that's it nobody's buying that so out of the gate the mom is like hmm you
know so but i think that's
where it starts there's a glitch and then and it spins out and then when she
says and then they have
the moment where they announce to daisy and and to derek's brother john that
they're having a
relationship and um they sit down and and and it's anna and derek sit down with
john and daisy and and
say like i don't know i think they might have been excited to break the news of
course but it's a
sensitive thing saying like not only are we because they weren't saying do we
have i'd like permission
to ask for your son's hand right marriage it wasn't like that was like by the
way we're doing it like
we're already they said we've been shagging a bit yes basically and we're in
love basically i don't
think they used the term shagging but it was along those lines yeah and and and
i think it felt to daisy
and john like they still had a protective because the kids he's not a kid he's
a young man the young man
is vulnerable right so they don't know like and also they don't want to think
about him sexual probably
yeah having adventurous sexual relations like with with with the woman who's
basically got a uh a
caretaking role right it's a professional relationship it's a complicated power
dynamic so the brother john
he's so shocked he goes and throws up he's like he cuts him to the like to the
soul like he feels
so confused and befuddled by by the relationship i mean a lot of it is just
also the awkwardness of
you know the bigger conversation is the race well i was going to say disability
oh okay is that people who are very disabled let's say very but people who have
who like can't walk
and in fact maybe can't actually feed themselves or like who have who need
round-the-clock assistance with
day-to-day life and may have like cognitive real really like real cognitive
delays like where they
seem to be incapable you know they'll watch cartoons and enjoy life but they're
not going to be reading
books and stuff a lot of people don't want to think about uh the sexual
relations it's almost like they
they're infantilized and it's seen as inappropriate oh that they have sexual
desires right but they do
they could they could of course they do because they're full-grown people right
yeah they're going
to be obvious and especially well one of the things you have to let people know
too i think is the way
that anna or anna would communicate she there's like this sort of um typewriter
type of contraption it's almost like um like a first typewriter you would give
a child to learn to
do typing on a speaking spell yeah like a speaking spell and she would kind of
guide his hand or hold
his hand because his hand would often kind of vibrate a lot so she would hold
his hand as he
would write out the different things he wanted to say so right there it's just
such a like who is the
right who is yeah is it mostly him is she guiding based on things she wants is
she even unknowingly
guiding based on things that she may want because there's desires inside of us
so the allegate the
contention by the the skeptics would be that because she had long conversations
with him using that
technique right a little like a ouija board would be the other analogy if you
know if you wanted to
uh say that he was dubious and non-scientific but the the allegation would be
that she was in in
essence having long conversations with herself and and producing her ideal love
partner like someone
who likes all the same thing you know what i mean like a fan fiction almost
writing her own fan fiction
or something creating and you know i'll leave it to people because that it's
sort of uh viewers could
go on the journey and figure out what they think happened but um one version of
events is that she was
you're projecting a kind of idealized version and using derek almost as a as a
prop like a geppetto and
a pinocchio type kind of she was puppeteering yeah yeah a real life human used
as a prop but then it's
so strange right and certainly possible for sure it feels so strange to want to
go spend all that time
with someone oh i should shout i have i need to mention the director nick august
perna who did a
brilliant job it's great yeah he's terrific and he as much as i'm taking i'm
here talking about it i
was exec an executive producer on it but it was it's his his project he did it
bring him up nick orcas
perner nick august perna august let's get a video a picture of the man there we
go there he is
google's area what a handsome man look at his eyes wow look like that is he
bangladeshi you think
i think he i i don't know his i you know i never asked i i don't think august
perna sounds like a
bangladeshi name i was gonna say though it's a great documentary that you get
yeah and the truth is
the part one of the things that his mom daisy says is the end he's like but now
like he he still hasn't
recovered he masturbates and and if you and she basically blames arna for the
fact that um getting
him started she's caught she's caught uh derek jacking off and you're thinking
like he's a 35 year
old man living at home what kind of world is she living in that she thinks that's
pathological do you
know what i mean right like what what else like what else would he be doing of
course you know
all day with no girlfriend yeah um i just put two extra ottomans in the middle
of the room and
let him figure it out you know to be honest with you yeah it's what a lot of
kids need you know if
he's at that that stage in his well-being send in like i don't know if this is
like considered
kosher or not but aren't there nurses who can do that and by the way a nurse
can be a man or a woman
but aren't there nurses that can go in and and isn't that part of therapy like
that you i would
agree that you would be allowed like someone do a milking of them yeah yeah i
don't see how that's
not a service right you can get oh dude you can get somebody to deliver you
like a damn power tools at
midnight but i can't get somebody to come over and relieve my cousin ricky or
something at two two in the
afternoon i totally agree with you though they do that in holland you know how
holland's ahead on all
this stuff like they would they'd they'd do that i think in belgium probably
bring that up if anybody's
milking i don't know what the term is really if some people are exasperating
the um i can't tell you
i think in belgium i don't know what the term is really like i don't know what
the term is going to be
like i don't know what the term is going to be like i don't know what the term
is going to be like