Name: How P*rn Changes Your Brain and Relationships
Uploaded: 2024-09-20T16:44:31.000Z
Description: Watch the stand-up comedy video 'How P*rn Changes Your Brain and Relationships' from Theo Von Clips on Comedy Buff. Published 2024-09-20. Transcript available.

Watch the stand-up comedy video 'How P*rn Changes Your Brain and Relationships' from Theo Von Clips on Comedy Buff. Published 2024-09-20. Transcript available.

And intimacy is kind of like was, I don't know, for a lot of guys, it got
replaced by pornography, too, I think really damaged it, especially for me.
You know, once I once I found pornography, there was like a way to have a
feeling, a connection with a woman that was safe enough for me to be in.
Yeah, I knew it wasn't I wasn't going to be hurt. Yeah. There was some sexual
reward to it. Yeah. And I could start it and stop it as I wish. And it was the
only kind of relationship I could even really handle kind of when I was in
other relationships, but those weren't none of them were as long as my
relationship with pornography, you know, to be honest. Yeah. Yeah. And now
right now I'm like, I think I'm 77 days off of pornography and 70 days off of
masturbation.
So I've had sexual activities, but I haven't been, you know, touching my wiener
or whatever people to say different stuff.
But, you know, I'm saying like, I don't know what they say in your country, you
know, topping off the wanking, wanking, thinking of the queen or whatever they
say, you know, I don't know what they say.
Queen takes rook or whatever. That's like a chess move. But yeah, so that's
been kind of different, you know, for me, that's been different. But that was a
that was a huge thing.
How is it different?
Well, for one, I quit thinking about it. It's like, I don't think about
pornography. I don't think about like masturbation. I don't have that weird
feeling where like I'll masturbate and then I'll just be laying there like
I'm still right where I was, but I've like kind of ejaculated or whatever,
because like sometimes like like semen or some people call it what I don't know
what people call it or whatever, like party sauce or whatever.
I don't even know what people call it, you know, on the street or whatever. But
like, I feel like the more I keep it in my body, the more masculine I feel,
right? And the more of myself I feel as opposed to just having a leak of it
constantly, you know, it was kind of like almost had a leak of my masculinity.
And I would cause the leak, but the leak would happen. And it was just like a
dripping pipe. It was like, you look at a dripping pipe, you're like, you know,
but you look at a pipe that's not dripping. You're like, hey, this is some
pretty good construction.
I like that. I love that phrase, leak of my masculinity.
Yeah, that's kind of what it felt like, you know, now that I really think about
it. And then I start to look at women a little bit. I don't think of it just so
much. And I've always thought of women in more than just a sexual sense, but
the sexual part isn't as strong. It's not like
let me just think about sex. It's given me a little bit more space in myself to
be like, well, let me think about who this person is and do I really want to
engage with them? It starts to give a little bit more value to sex for me. And
by that happening, intimacy is kind of created because for one, I have a little
more intimacy with myself, right? It's like I respect my intimacy a little bit
more. I'm not just masturbating. I'm not just like, you know, tossing my
intimacy off to some person through a screen or something that doesn't really
mean anything to me. And so I think those are some feelings in my head that
start to happen. And in my, I start to feel a little bit more, I don't know if
it's integrity, but it is a little bit more sense of intimacy with myself.
That's lovely. So one of the reasons that people resort to things like that,
particularly after a breakup,
is that the brain circuitry that is to do with unrequited love is relieved by
certain activities because they cause the same kind of chemical cocktail.
And those activities are things like alcohol, cocaine, pornography.
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Sorry.
Yeah. Well, it makes, it makes sense, right? This is why people go to those
things.
Yeah. Yeah.
Um, and obviously they're, they're addictive. So then it becomes, um, something
that you need to do more of to get the same reward.
Right. And that becomes your relationship.
Yeah.
Yeah. And so then it's like, well, yeah, of course, other relationships are
going to be different because I don't even realize the relationships that I put
in front of.
Um, and the other thing is that pornography creates such an unrealistic idealized
version of what a woman should look like and what she should be prepared to do
in an intimate relationship or, or even not in an intimate relationship, you
know, like in a one night stand or very early in, in dating that that's very
damaging to male and female relationships as well.
That, you know, the expectation that you will naturally have if you've been
looking at that every day.
Yeah. Oh yeah. And to not have it in my brain.
And it starts to my, my imagination starts to start up again.
Like that's one thing that's disappeared over the years.
I feel like is our imagination because we have access at anything you want to
see.
You want to see two gay guys attack a squirrel or whatever in a marina or
whatever you can, but you can Google it right now and it'll, you'll find it
like anything you want to find out there.
You can, it's like, we don't need our imagination.
We used to have to imagine.
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
Yeah. Um, and so that like, now my imagination starts to start up again, you
know, cause, uh,
yeah, I'm not attaching porn to women I meet now, you know, um, and there, yeah,
right there.
Squirrel attacks twink right there. That is. Yeah. And I don't know. And that
might've been the rebuttal who I, who knows where the first attack started, but,
um, but yeah, so that's something that's been really neat.
Uh, just on this recently that I've been doing, um, and really seeing some
reward from it. And you know, what's so crazy for years, I tried like different,
like blockers on computers and stuff.
And I got started with this kind of recovery coach. And he just said, why don't
you text me at night? And he said, tell me something that felt good during your
day.
Tell me something you felt like maybe you could have done a little bit
differently. Um, and then tell me how long you've been off of porn and how long
you've been off of masturbation.
And that's for some reason, that's all it took. And, and it's just been so easy.
Well, it's accountability.
Maybe that's it. It's like accountability with somebody that I trust or yeah,
that I trust and, um,
And that you respect because you will feel like you've let them down if you can't
keep, you know, send those messages.
That's a good point. Yeah. It's funny. I didn't feel that as much, but I did. I
just felt, I was shocked at how easy it started to help me, you know?
Thank you.