Name: Men and Women Talk to Their Friends VERY Differently
Uploaded: 2025-02-26T20:20:19.000Z
Description: Watch the stand-up comedy video 'Men and Women Talk to Their Friends VERY Differently' from Theo Von Clips on Comedy Buff. Published 2025-02-26. Transcript available.

Watch the stand-up comedy video 'Men and Women Talk to Their Friends VERY Differently' from Theo Von Clips on Comedy Buff. Published 2025-02-26. Transcript available.

and the other thing is critically you're doing it shoulder to shoulder do you
know this thing
about the difference in communication style between men and women and boys and
girls like men
men go shoulder to shoulder women go face to face it's interesting how we're
set up here
um once you've seen this you can't unsee it oh that's interesting right yeah
because guys don't
usually look at each other when they're sharing information that much no
because actually that's
a little bit of a threatening that's a threatening stance for men like if men
go face to face
that's that might indicate something some aggression or something like you're
it's a bit
like you're you're intimidating each other a little bit right there's a role
for that probably
uh yeah when you talk to someone you rarely stand and look directly there's
always a little bit of
not if you're male so my we learned this the hard way like even before i had
any of the data and god
i wish i'd had this data when we were raising our kids right but my wife would
like our kids would
come home from school all boys uh and the two that were in high school and
middle school at the time
they'd come home and they'd like sit across the breakfast bar from her right
and she'd be feeding
them stuff like she'd feeding them protein have some protein and then she'd
stare at them like
this and be like how was your day how was your day and they'd be like well fine
they'd look down
fine did you learn anything i don't know like what did nothing like just
nothing and then later on
we'd be driving with them somewhere or watching a game or video game or just
something something like
that shoulder to shoulder and they would say uh you know this weird thing
happened today dad or mom right
this girl said this thing at school today huh interesting and what we now know
is that that's
very very common that actually the communication style that men are most
comfortable with is less
it's face to face and it's more shoulder to shoulder now think about this
fishing road trips
watching sports shoulders sitting on the bench that shoulder to shoulder it is
the only explanation
i have for the existence of golf what is golf about you play golf okay good i'd
be willing to play it
but i just i can't even calm down right now but it's like again men have to be
doing something else
and they have to be doing it like just so if you go to a party now you you you
will not not be able
to unsee this watch how the men stand in relation to each other and there are
people who've done whole phds on
measuring the angle we always stand a little bit catty corner yeah a little bit
of an angle because i thought
because to go face to face is threatening now women on the other hand very
comfortable face to face
walk into a coffee shop and count up how many people are sitting opposite each
other staring each other in the face
and then see what the gender is of them much more likely to be women now
it's not like one is good or bad right but what you don't want is a mental
health profession
like psychology or whatever it is based on the presumption that we're all
supposed to sit like this
and so a lot of male therapists now they're taking their male patients out for
a walk that's the thing
walk and talk that's the best with them don't sit and stare at them like i've
been saying that for
years as a man it's like we don't want that yeah mike's girlfriend's a
therapist now and she i i want
she and i whenever we really needed to discuss stuff we go on a walk because
you're in motion already
there's a part of you that feels like it's moving forward even if you're
sharing something that's
troubling because sometimes you get you're sitting a sedentary sitch you're
just sitting there in a
room somewhere it's like oh well you you leave you haven't really gone anywhere
nothing's happened
you know but on a walk you you're you're making progress no matter what even by
just like um staying
in motion same as a road trip yeah but they've now got this physiological
element to it too which
is that just how you're relating to each other physically especially for men it's
just very important
that we are i'm gonna try that next time i'm with my therapist in a room it's
like yeah why do
okay yeah like maybe it's easier if i'm just able to share and have somebody
there right
i remember one time i was talking to my brother and um and i didn't know that
this had been important
in my life but he said he said hey man i can just i was having a tough day man
i pulled over i was like
just i was kind of like falling apart a little bit and um he's like hey man i
can just sit here on the
phone with you uh we don't have to say anything right and i'd never he's like i
have some time
right i have an extra 10 minutes i can just sit here with you we don't have to
say any we don't
have to say anything and i can just be here with you you know and man i just i
mean it was like a
damn inside of me broke you know it was like literally there was tears coming
out of my toenails you know
like it was just like you didn't realize all the time you needed someone just
to be there yeah i
didn't near it needed to hear him say anything i didn't need to hear that how
they thought i felt
i didn't need to hear a response to anything no judgment nothing i just needed
somebody there you
know and it was like i mean it's i mean it like i remember my hands vibrating
it shook me so much you
know um you're very lucky that idea of being like with somebody not necessarily
for them i think sometimes
we think like we've got to be for them we've got to be telling them what to do
we've got to be advising
them we've got to be advocating like somehow we've got to be doing something
and sometimes it's just
being with and for them to know that you're with i'm with you right that's an
incredibly powerful statement