Name: Why Brotherhood Matters, and the Power of Male Friendships
Uploaded: 2025-03-28T13:01:20.000Z
Description: Watch the stand-up comedy video 'Why Brotherhood Matters, and the Power of Male Friendships' from Theo Von Clips on Comedy Buff. Published 2025-03-28. Transcript available.

Watch the stand-up comedy video 'Why Brotherhood Matters, and the Power of Male Friendships' from Theo Von Clips on Comedy Buff. Published 2025-03-28. Transcript available.

so one thing you have to start to look at is then where do men start to you
know or where do men
continue to uh find these building blocks right to to create the worth inside
of themselves um
for me one thing has been through other men right and and um and even like you're
saying shoulder
to shoulder like things that experiences that i've had that have been the the
best um like even when
i used to go to uh brazilian jiu-jitsu and take classes there it was really
amazing because
you're in this physical space but also the also there's so much mutual respect
in there it's not
people trying to beat each other up it's trying to help people trying to help
each other um physically
uh learn how to take care of themselves right yeah and but with with that there's
so much camaraderie
and um and um love and compassion that comes along with having great
instructors and a lot of times
it's just the guy next to you who's your best instructor for the next moment um
recovery
meetings you know i go to recovery meetings for um intimacy and um aa and those
meetings for me are
really great um especially the intimacy ones like where you know they call it
like sex and love
addiction and stuff but it's really just like intimacy disorders or connection
disorders or just
it's almost just low self-worth it's all it's all of that and sometimes you
base it off of your
relationship with women or you can look at your relationship with women to see
how you're doing
on your own another other men and women in those groups or is it just me a lot
of the ones i go to
are just men and it's not that i don't want women in them it's just like i want
a space where it's just
men i can be able to share openly if i'm struggling with a certain thing or how
i'm feeling or um and it
just be other men you know it just feels and it and then you're not trying to
like uh slurp on any of
the chicks that are in there either you're not trying to flirt or anything you
know you're just
which would seem bad given the nature of the problems that many of the men have
oh and you'll be shocked it'd be like holding an aa meeting in a bar or
something yeah i understand
that yeah so it's yeah so but you're getting male solidarity from both that's
what you're getting
and that's one of the reasons i go i go out here other men share i go to share
and sometimes
they'll say something and like my body will just go like that right it's like
just your shoulders drop you breathe it's an exhale that i didn't even know i
needed to take
yeah it's an exhale that has just been running in the back of my subconscious
for sometimes decades
sometimes hours sometimes years minutes but it's something that i needed to
hear i needed to hear
everything was okay yeah and i needed to hear another man's voice say it yeah
and um and it helps
it helps uh it helps yeah it's interesting i well thank you for sharing that
yeah you're welcome
like but yeah what spaces are there for men like what it's something beautiful
about that i think
and i go back to my story about the hut like in the bottom of the slate mine it's
like
there's something oh yeah there's something nice about it beautiful it's quite
fragile i think that
male friendships take work i think we sometimes don't pay enough attention to
them it's actually
something like i go on road trips with more my best friend or every year i get
together with my male
buddies and we go hiking so that we're shoulder to shoulder and just talk and
catch up and that's
i i think one of the one of the damaging trends in recent years has been a
suspicion
of male spaces right of like the boys weekend or even some of the institutions
so if you actually
go through the institutions now like the boy scouts is not the boy scouts
anymore i'm actually a scout
leader i'm not doing as much now but i used to run a scout group over in the uk
and i was a scout
but it's co-ed now boy scouts is co-ed it's scouting for america now and what
is girl scouts are they just
joined forces no girl scouts are still girl scouts no yeah and we can't go over
there the girl scouts
does not allow boys in but boy scouts has become scouting for america ladies
that's but that's not
there's a pattern here uh you've got the ymca is now co-ed right well no one
thinks no one really
thinks about the m in ymca anymore that's your point right whereas the ywca
still very kind of focused
on women boys and girls clubs used to be boys clubs and there's one other one i'm
thinking of and it's
not that it's not there's always bad for things to be co-ed it's not that you
also don't want
institutions for girls and women but what we've got now is a situation where we're
actually really
very often applauding having these spaces for girls and kind of women to have
female solidarity
work together grow together but we're really suspicious if it's if it's men
doing it and i get
why right because of our history but i think that as a result we've actually
deconstructed a lot of
these institutions where actually boys could learn from other boys and from men
and so on too and so i
i think that turning the boy scouts into scouting for america and taking not
for it being i i think
we'll i think we'll look back on that and just say that was a bad decision kind
of emasculating as a
in a way it's just like why can't i mean i just think about my own experience
why can't we meet
right and it's not like i went to a co-ed high school but actually the fact
that i was able to
go to scouts and it would be guys there and we could learn from each other and
i weirdly i actually
think that male spaces are where you can help men to learn some of the not
traditionally male
attributes like caring and nurturing and love and expressing that stuff it's
just easier right
or the male sports team right like you're learning love you're learning
comradeship you're learning
solidarity you're learning exactly and i just think that's a bit and it
probably is true for girls too
yeah but kind of learning some of those skills that maybe go against the
stereotype about girls like
learning to be more assertive maybe or competitive etc like you you generally
don't have to encourage
a bunch of boys to compete with each other right that just tends to be a bit
more baked in right
it's in the nature yeah yeah and there should be spaces where it's like hey men
can meet up here
tonight and they used to have more of them there was like more american legions
there was more like
vfws but a lot of that was military-based type stuff it was and since we haven't
had that
large of a war you know i know we have conflicts and we've had some smaller
wars but i know we have
but since we haven't had such a huge conflict there hasn't been that big band
of brothers type of vibe
that's that's brought men together so much