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Watch the stand-up comedy video 'Callers Give Their Advice on Dealing with Grief' from Theo Von Clips on Comedy Buff. Published 2025-05-13. Transcript available.

um all right you know one of the last episodes the last solo episode we had
called uh chili boy
or something like that um was it chili baby chili boy chili baby chili um oh
pickle chili
and it was about a month ago and a man called in who uh who had lost his um
girlfriend to cancer
so we're going to take a quick listen uh to that
hey theo um hope you're doing well i'm uh calling you today um see if i can get
your perspective on
something um my uh girlfriend of uh four years she uh she passed away five and
a half months ago um
she uh it wasn't not a surprise but you know she had cancer um we thought that
she had a little
more time but um yeah um since then i spend most of my time doing nothing you
know um i would visit her
grave every day for months which is good i guess for getting out he goes and
visits her grave every
day you would say for months onward man thank you for sharing this brother of
my apartment um but i
would just let the time pass you know but um recently i've started uh going
back to school full time and
uh working again and honestly i feel like i'm just doing it because it's uh
expected of me you know
from like people around me my family and my peers um i guess another reason
that is i'm i'm pretty young
but um so maybe some people just expect me to move forward pretty fast but you
know i i don't want to
you know um yeah um i just you know sometimes here i feel like you're like i
feel like i was like left
behind you know um yeah thank you for the call brother and um and we we
discussed this on a previous
episode but we had we got some calls that came in and i wanted to listen to
some of them here uh just
so you can get an idea as always the hotline guide is is 985-664-9503 and um
here's a call that came in
about grief we asked callers uh if they had any suggestions for that gentleman
and here's some
of the responses that we got hey tio um man love your show bro listen to you
every day or every time
you make a podcast i'm actually listening to pickle chili right now um and i
heard the caller call in
about he lost a uh his uh girlfriend or whatever and you asked some people to
call in give some ideas
how maybe he can handle this situation and look i actually lost my daughter
five years ago to this
day um from a brain aneurysm and i guess the only advice i can say is like man
don't let nobody tell
you how long you should grieve uh it's going to be different for everyone
because not every not every
uh situation is going to be built the same so uh do it at your own speed man um
there's going to be a lot
of people that's going to want to get involved and tell you how you should do
these but you have to
experience this the way that you need to experience this to make it right for
you um i have dreams about
my daughter often man and it's like it's funny because like in my dreams i know
she's passed away
and i know she's not with her so while i'm dreaming i try to i just try to hug
her and talk to her
and make that dream last as long as i can um you know and look bro miss her
miss her every day i talk to
my daughter i'm i miss i mean every night before i say a prayer i talk to my
daughter and i've been
doing that since the day she's passed away and look last but not least bro um
it doesn't get easier
it really doesn't it just becomes a new type of normal if uh if that makes some
sense bro
man theo gang gang love you bro love you too bro thank you man man
man that's just
that's all you know it's that's nice of him to call he called out of louisiana
i see that area code 337
over there and you can hear the bayou in the back of his drool right there um
yeah i remember after my dad was gone even still sometimes if i'm having like a
tough day whenever
i go to sleep at night i'll uh yeah i'll hope that i get to see him or that he
shows up you know
and then sometimes it's like gets to be further sometimes it's like further and
further between
times and then um
yeah and it's just like you just wish some like you hope that somebody will be
there but then
sometimes they are in your dream and yeah that's awesome man that's a really
nice uh sentiment to
share um thank you for that call let's take another call here
hey theo hey man just wanted to call in uh in response listening to the
pickle chili podcast and uh the guy thank you for listening man i appreciate
that thank all you all
anybody who listened i that lost his uh girlfriend and after five months wanted
to respond to somebody
that's been through that too uh lost my fiancee um high school sweethearts um
yeah day before my
birthday she was in a car accident and uh it's tough man it's somebody that you've
been
with for seven years um at a young age i was uh 21 she's 20 so it's kind of
rough but just wanted to
respond to him and let him know the things that have helped me and maybe it'll
help him and it's
somebody else and the biggest thing is i got all those the same symptoms as him
um you know didn't
want to do anything uh you lose your purpose in life and uh some things that
you touched on theo you know
uh you want to dream you want to feel all that again and uh it's all true uh
but the thing that
helped me the most is is surround yourself with uh friends and family and uh
those things right there
the people that love and support you i'm still close with her family and uh
those things help you get
through it man so anytime i'm having those rough days and and weeks and and you
just like you said
get out hey surround yourself with people that love you and your friends go do
some things with your
friends they're always there for you and uh i got a dog you know and that
really helped me get through
that too man you always got somebody excited to see you when you get home and
uh that's it man that's
really the answer uh you'll never forget you'll never move on uh completely you
hope to have a
normal life but uh the things that help you push through it are going to be
just love surround yourself
with people who love you amen man
yeah there's a song uh there's a song by this guy stephen wilson jr thank you
for that call and
thank you to the caller previously too and thank you guys for both sharing uh
your experience with loss
yeah there's this song uh grief is that uh by stephen wilson jr and it's uh
grief is only
love that has nowhere to go and um and i thought about that i thought about
that since that gentleman
called in um because love is like love is this feeling that it has to land on
someone or an object
it has to land on a on something right like a person place it has to it has to
love has to have a place
to land if you love like you can love yourself but um that's more like
integrity and um confidence
and then it can even drift into ego or whatever but when you really love you
love someone
you know and so love is really it's an outward thing it's it's not it's yours
but it's if it's active
it's not yours it's it's a it's a like a bridge almost kind of and then um yeah
once that recipient
is gone once that place where it was landing is gone it's like um it almost
becomes
it's crazy that something that is so wonderful can become so painful because
then you have the all
these same feelings but they don't have the place to land um yeah i remember
when my father died i
remember i just i was at his funeral and it was like the most like scariest
thing ever there was
people there that i didn't even i didn't know any of them and uh my um this
family that i just moved in
with the day it took me over there and uh and some of our neighbors went with
me and i just remember
like uh it was all these feelings that i think i didn't even know that i'd had
that i wanted to be
for my father and i didn't even know i had them and now it was just like they
were they hit a dam you
know they just would never have a place to go and i just remember like just so
much tears and like
crying and like it would be like going into the cracks of the floor and i just
wanted to
i just wanted to be one of those tears i wanted to just disappear um
uh let's take some other calls man and we're not trying to make that like i
guess it can't help but be
like sad but i think it's real right um and it's real this is you know life is
real and it's full
of real things and i'm just glad we don't have to go through them alone so that's
a nice thought to
have right now hey deal um i'm replying to the gentleman that had recently lost
a girlfriend uh
i had lost my girlfriend back in 2018 so it's going on seven years now
it's tough and it sounds like he was looking for answers when you know the only
thing that
i could say is like it sounds like he's on the right track and if i was him i
would just choose to
live through the memories that they shared together um i remember my girlfriend
always telling me that
you know she thought i was a good teacher and so now i'm in a field where i'm
able to teach people
things and i just feel like every time i do i just it reminds me of her and
there's just like
it's no longer a sadness anymore it there's a happiness in it and
yeah you know it's funny um thank you sorry i'm belting i had a little bit of celsius
but
uh thank you for the call man yeah i remember my dad like one thing i like one
of the only things i
remember he said to me ever in my life was that i was a survivor he used to
always say that you're a
survivor you know and maybe he knew that because he was so old that it would be
something that i would
need i don't know but it's like it's like one thing that i just feel like you
know i relate to or something
um you know like i'm gonna get through this i guess you know so i think that's
really magical
that when you act out something that somebody who loves you told you you were
when you do those
things um that you are kind of servicing that relationship that's no longer
there
you know like if she says that where you said this part i remember my
girlfriend always telling me
that you know she thought i was a good teacher and so now i'm in a field where
i'm able to teach people
things and yeah i could totally see that man that by then teaching that you
feel like you're honoring her
and it makes you feel that same way that you felt when she told you it was
something that you did really
well um yeah it's interesting how we figure out how to uh how to keep going in
the world all of us
and that we want to that's one thing that i think is amazing about life uh is
this will to survive
right it's like you have a man that lost his daughter and he's you know and
there's
it's like he wants to go and at least wake up and see the day every day because
you know probably through his eyes his daughter somehow gets to see the day as
well you know i think
there's just something in us that wants to survive so much um
and i don't even know what to say about that or what i think about that thought
uh but thank you for that call man thanks for sharing that um all right let's
take one more call
hey theo this is tyler from cincinnati hey tyler thank you for calling dude cincinnati
over there
will the bangles have a decent defense i don't know all the money's on the
offensive side of the ball
it feels like if they let trey hendrickson go now with that said is it a joe
burrow make or break year
we'll see about that baby onward brother um i don't have personal experience
with a loss of an
immediate loved one but i've walked next to someone who has and our church
offers counseling around that
and one of the resources we use is this book called dark clouds deep mercy i
highly recommend it to
everyone who is dealing with loss and i buy it for anyone close to me that i
hear has a loved one who
they've lost and they've found some peace from that book uh yeah hopefully that
could be a resource to
some people who are listening thanks spike all right yeah thank you for that
suggestion man i know
there's a lot of grief books out there and stuff but just like how do you go
through it
yeah it's interesting the young man who called earlier the first code the
original call was saying
he felt like he got left behind yeah it's just it's all kind of fascinating um
even though it's so sad
uh
i was look i was the other day this came up on my feed when i was thinking
about grief
um and it's jim carrey once said or this site attribute attributes it to him
grief is not just an
emotion it's an unraveling a space where something once lived but is now gone
it carves through you
leaving a hollow ache where love once resided in the beginning it feels unbearable
like a wound that will
never close but over time the raw edges begin to mend the pain softens but the
imprint remains a quiet
reminder of what once was the truth is you never really move on you move with
it the love you have
does not disappear it transforms it lingers in the echoes of laughter and the
warmth of old memories in the
silent moments where you still reach for what is no longer there and that's
okay grief is not a burden
to be hidden it's not a weakness to be ashamed of it is the deepest proof that
love existed
that's something beautiful once touched your life so let yourself feel it let
yourself mourn let yourself
remember there is no timeline there is no right way to grieve some days will be
heavy and some will feel
lighter some moments will bring unexpected waves of sadness while others will
fill you with gratitude
for the love you were lucky enough to experience honor your grief for it is
sacred it is a testament to
the depth of your heart and in time through the pain you will find healing not
because you have forgotten
but because you have learned how to carry both love and loss together man that's
a pretty powerful
yeah whenever i heard that quote that yeah that grief is only love that has no
place to go it's a great
song too by stephen wilson jr um i don't believe that the quote is his but it's
a uh it's a great song um
yeah like you have memories and sometimes even just telling a funny story about
someone um
that's gone can almost make you have the same feeling as if they uh are still
alive sometimes
um but yeah thank you guys for anyway listening to that i know some of that
stuff's kind of heavy and
stuff to think about but it's nice to take moments to think about people uh and
just hear what just be
alive yeah it's nice to just be alive um yeah i don't mean that i just mean it's
um
um i don't know what i mean anyway yeah thank you everybody who made some calls
and called in uh
there's a lot of nice calls and suggestions and we tried to put some together
there um
Thank you.

Callers Give Their Advice on Dealing with Grief

um all right you know one of the last episodes the last solo episode we had
called uh chili boy
or something like that um was it chili baby chili boy chili baby chili um oh
pickle chili
and it was about a month ago and a man called in who uh who had lost his um
girlfriend to cancer
so we're going to take a quick listen uh to that
hey theo um hope you're doing well i'm uh calling you today um see if i can get
your perspective on
something um my uh girlfriend of uh four years she uh she passed away five and
a half months ago um
she uh it wasn't not a surprise but you know she had cancer um we thought that
she had a little
more time but um yeah um since then i spend most of my time doing nothing you
know um i would visit her
grave every day for months which is good i guess for getting out he goes and
visits her grave every
day you would say for months onward man thank you for sharing this brother of
my apartment um but i
would just let the time pass you know but um recently i've started uh going
back to school full time and
uh working again and honestly i feel like i'm just doing it because it's uh
expected of me you know
from like people around me my family and my peers um i guess another reason
that is i'm i'm pretty young
but um so maybe some people just expect me to move forward pretty fast but you
know i i don't want to
you know um yeah um i just you know sometimes here i feel like you're like i
feel like i was like left
behind you know um yeah thank you for the call brother and um and we we
discussed this on a previous
episode but we had we got some calls that came in and i wanted to listen to
some of them here uh just
so you can get an idea as always the hotline guide is is 985-664-9503 and um
here's a call that came in
about grief we asked callers uh if they had any suggestions for that gentleman
and here's some
of the responses that we got hey tio um man love your show bro listen to you
every day or every time
you make a podcast i'm actually listening to pickle chili right now um and i
heard the caller call in
about he lost a uh his uh girlfriend or whatever and you asked some people to
call in give some ideas
how maybe he can handle this situation and look i actually lost my daughter
five years ago to this
day um from a brain aneurysm and i guess the only advice i can say is like man
don't let nobody tell
you how long you should grieve uh it's going to be different for everyone
because not every not every
uh situation is going to be built the same so uh do it at your own speed man um
there's going to be a lot
of people that's going to want to get involved and tell you how you should do
these but you have to
experience this the way that you need to experience this to make it right for
you um i have dreams about
my daughter often man and it's like it's funny because like in my dreams i know
she's passed away
and i know she's not with her so while i'm dreaming i try to i just try to hug
her and talk to her
and make that dream last as long as i can um you know and look bro miss her
miss her every day i talk to
my daughter i'm i miss i mean every night before i say a prayer i talk to my
daughter and i've been
doing that since the day she's passed away and look last but not least bro um
it doesn't get easier
it really doesn't it just becomes a new type of normal if uh if that makes some
sense bro
man theo gang gang love you bro love you too bro thank you man man
man that's just
that's all you know it's that's nice of him to call he called out of louisiana
i see that area code 337
over there and you can hear the bayou in the back of his drool right there um
yeah i remember after my dad was gone even still sometimes if i'm having like a
tough day whenever
i go to sleep at night i'll uh yeah i'll hope that i get to see him or that he
shows up you know
and then sometimes it's like gets to be further sometimes it's like further and
further between
times and then um
yeah and it's just like you just wish some like you hope that somebody will be
there but then
sometimes they are in your dream and yeah that's awesome man that's a really
nice uh sentiment to
share um thank you for that call let's take another call here
hey theo hey man just wanted to call in uh in response listening to the
pickle chili podcast and uh the guy thank you for listening man i appreciate
that thank all you all
anybody who listened i that lost his uh girlfriend and after five months wanted
to respond to somebody
that's been through that too uh lost my fiancee um high school sweethearts um
yeah day before my
birthday she was in a car accident and uh it's tough man it's somebody that you've
been
with for seven years um at a young age i was uh 21 she's 20 so it's kind of
rough but just wanted to
respond to him and let him know the things that have helped me and maybe it'll
help him and it's
somebody else and the biggest thing is i got all those the same symptoms as him
um you know didn't
want to do anything uh you lose your purpose in life and uh some things that
you touched on theo you know
uh you want to dream you want to feel all that again and uh it's all true uh
but the thing that
helped me the most is is surround yourself with uh friends and family and uh
those things right there
the people that love and support you i'm still close with her family and uh
those things help you get
through it man so anytime i'm having those rough days and and weeks and and you
just like you said
get out hey surround yourself with people that love you and your friends go do
some things with your
friends they're always there for you and uh i got a dog you know and that
really helped me get through
that too man you always got somebody excited to see you when you get home and
uh that's it man that's
really the answer uh you'll never forget you'll never move on uh completely you
hope to have a
normal life but uh the things that help you push through it are going to be
just love surround yourself
with people who love you amen man
yeah there's a song uh there's a song by this guy stephen wilson jr thank you
for that call and
thank you to the caller previously too and thank you guys for both sharing uh
your experience with loss
yeah there's this song uh grief is that uh by stephen wilson jr and it's uh
grief is only
love that has nowhere to go and um and i thought about that i thought about
that since that gentleman
called in um because love is like love is this feeling that it has to land on
someone or an object
it has to land on a on something right like a person place it has to it has to
love has to have a place
to land if you love like you can love yourself but um that's more like
integrity and um confidence
and then it can even drift into ego or whatever but when you really love you
love someone
you know and so love is really it's an outward thing it's it's not it's yours
but it's if it's active
it's not yours it's it's a it's a like a bridge almost kind of and then um yeah
once that recipient
is gone once that place where it was landing is gone it's like um it almost
becomes
it's crazy that something that is so wonderful can become so painful because
then you have the all
these same feelings but they don't have the place to land um yeah i remember
when my father died i
remember i just i was at his funeral and it was like the most like scariest
thing ever there was
people there that i didn't even i didn't know any of them and uh my um this
family that i just moved in
with the day it took me over there and uh and some of our neighbors went with
me and i just remember
like uh it was all these feelings that i think i didn't even know that i'd had
that i wanted to be
for my father and i didn't even know i had them and now it was just like they
were they hit a dam you
know they just would never have a place to go and i just remember like just so
much tears and like
crying and like it would be like going into the cracks of the floor and i just
wanted to
i just wanted to be one of those tears i wanted to just disappear um
uh let's take some other calls man and we're not trying to make that like i
guess it can't help but be
like sad but i think it's real right um and it's real this is you know life is
real and it's full
of real things and i'm just glad we don't have to go through them alone so that's
a nice thought to
have right now hey deal um i'm replying to the gentleman that had recently lost
a girlfriend uh
i had lost my girlfriend back in 2018 so it's going on seven years now
it's tough and it sounds like he was looking for answers when you know the only
thing that
i could say is like it sounds like he's on the right track and if i was him i
would just choose to
live through the memories that they shared together um i remember my girlfriend
always telling me that
you know she thought i was a good teacher and so now i'm in a field where i'm
able to teach people
things and i just feel like every time i do i just it reminds me of her and
there's just like
it's no longer a sadness anymore it there's a happiness in it and
yeah you know it's funny um thank you sorry i'm belting i had a little bit of celsius
but
uh thank you for the call man yeah i remember my dad like one thing i like one
of the only things i
remember he said to me ever in my life was that i was a survivor he used to
always say that you're a
survivor you know and maybe he knew that because he was so old that it would be
something that i would
need i don't know but it's like it's like one thing that i just feel like you
know i relate to or something
um you know like i'm gonna get through this i guess you know so i think that's
really magical
that when you act out something that somebody who loves you told you you were
when you do those
things um that you are kind of servicing that relationship that's no longer
there
you know like if she says that where you said this part i remember my
girlfriend always telling me
that you know she thought i was a good teacher and so now i'm in a field where
i'm able to teach people
things and yeah i could totally see that man that by then teaching that you
feel like you're honoring her
and it makes you feel that same way that you felt when she told you it was
something that you did really
well um yeah it's interesting how we figure out how to uh how to keep going in
the world all of us
and that we want to that's one thing that i think is amazing about life uh is
this will to survive
right it's like you have a man that lost his daughter and he's you know and
there's
it's like he wants to go and at least wake up and see the day every day because
you know probably through his eyes his daughter somehow gets to see the day as
well you know i think
there's just something in us that wants to survive so much um
and i don't even know what to say about that or what i think about that thought
uh but thank you for that call man thanks for sharing that um all right let's
take one more call
hey theo this is tyler from cincinnati hey tyler thank you for calling dude cincinnati
over there
will the bangles have a decent defense i don't know all the money's on the
offensive side of the ball
it feels like if they let trey hendrickson go now with that said is it a joe
burrow make or break year
we'll see about that baby onward brother um i don't have personal experience
with a loss of an
immediate loved one but i've walked next to someone who has and our church
offers counseling around that
and one of the resources we use is this book called dark clouds deep mercy i
highly recommend it to
everyone who is dealing with loss and i buy it for anyone close to me that i
hear has a loved one who
they've lost and they've found some peace from that book uh yeah hopefully that
could be a resource to
some people who are listening thanks spike all right yeah thank you for that
suggestion man i know
there's a lot of grief books out there and stuff but just like how do you go
through it
yeah it's interesting the young man who called earlier the first code the
orig