Name: Kevin Gates Says Give Yourself Some Grace
Uploaded: 2025-08-28T15:01:21.000Z
Description: Watch the stand-up comedy video 'Kevin Gates Says Give Yourself Some Grace' from Theo Von Clips on Comedy Buff. Published 2025-08-28. Transcript available.

Watch the stand-up comedy video 'Kevin Gates Says Give Yourself Some Grace' from Theo Von Clips on Comedy Buff. Published 2025-08-28. Transcript available.

You were practicing Muslim?
Yeah, I'm a Muslim.
Nice, nice to see you today.
Oh, like, you talking about what I got on?
No, I think you...
Oh, no, this ain't got shit.
No, it doesn't look like that.
I'm not that kind of bull.
No, I don't know.
Oh, man.
No, because I got the bullseye.
Oh, you thought that was part of the...
Oh, man.
Oh, man.
I'm so not sorry.
Please forgive me.
No, I didn't know what you mean
because I thought the bullseye was.
The irony is ironic that I got the bullseye on.
I'm not that kind, but I'm...
Dave Chappelle said,
I'm not good at it,
but, you know, I do the best I can, you know?
No, I didn't know.
I thought, no, I feel like, no.
Yeah, I didn't know what I thought.
I just felt like, dang, Kevin.
Yeah, I thought you just seemed like a...
It's okay.
Okay.
It's okay.
Dang, that's hilarious.
It was just funny because I had to...
That's one thing I...
Like, I possessed the ability to laugh at myself,
and once I developed the ability to laugh at myself,
life became so much more easier.
Let's talk about that.
If I slip and fall...
Yeah.
Like, every time we step outside,
we're being judged.
You know, if you went to school and you had to...
Oh, God, I got to say it.
I got to...
Not to get off subject.
I used to hate free dress day at school.
Uniform saved my life.
Really?
Yeah.
But...
Why, you couldn't handle it?
I didn't have no clothes.
Oh, damn.
Yeah.
You just wore the uniform again, like Kevin.
Man, for free dress day, I wore my mama...
I wore a pair of my mama jeans to build a school
in an old timey ill-finger shirt
and the same shoes I had been wearing in school the whole time.
Man, they teased me forever.
Then, you know how you got the faded part on the knees?
Yeah.
It was like, why are your knees white?
Would you been on your knees?
Nah, that's the style.
Everybody got distressed denim now.
Yeah.
So, that was hard.
That was the worst.
But I said that to say this.
If you possess the ability to laugh at yourself,
you never have to worry about being shamed of anything.
I've heard you talk about that before.
In fact, man, it's funny because one of the things that...
It's okay to be human.
You know what I'm saying?
Well, you know, most of my life,
it was hard for me to laugh at myself.
A couple years ago, it's so funny.
Tell me about it.
A couple years ago, there was a moment that happened.
I don't remember what it was.
But I like...
Oh, God.
I went.
Theo.
I just kind of laughed at myself and said my name.
My whole life, it had been this internal thing
that had been just judging me always.
And for the first time ever...
We are our worst critics.
But I just didn't realize how infected I'd been
by my own, by judgment of myself.
But we're taught that because when we come outside,
we judge by our peers, we judge by everything.
If you do this, if you do that.
Yeah.
And then it's like, you know what?
I'm going to be the best human I could be.
Yeah.
I don't care if I make mistakes.
I'm going to follow my heart.
I don't care what nobody thinks.
I swear to God, I'm going to be the best human I could be.
And something else I used to do, before I developed a greater sense of self-worth,
I would overcompensate.
And that's still a form of seeking validation.
Like, I would overextend and I would overextend myself as far as just the
person I am.
Not to be liked.
I was doing this because this is what I really wanted somebody to do for me.
Yeah.
So I would overextend and just overshare and overlove and over everything.
I would do it to the most.
But this is the love that I should have been giving myself.
Bro, there'll be times I'll text this.
Over the past few years, I noticed this will happen for me.
I'll text somebody.
Hey, man, just wanted to remind you, you're a great guy.
And I'm so proud of you, right?
I wish somebody would tell me that.
And as I'm typing it to them, tears will come out of my face.
And I didn't realize.
And it's a nice thing to say to them.
And a lot of times, it's a person I'll have enough of a connection with where,
like, we share a lot of similar experiences.
So we'll say that type of thing to each other.
But, man, sometimes as I'm sending that, because really, that's what I always
needed, right?
The dude who did my guns on my hands, my gun tattoos, his name, Trevin Spielman.
But some people call him Trevon or Trevin.
I call him just T or my brother.
What is he doing?
He's out of Louisiana or where?
I'm about to tell you.
Okay, sorry.
He used to always make jokes.
He used to always laugh.
He used to always check on everybody else.
And he sent me a text message.
I got on the flight and went to California.
When my flight landed, the last text message, he was like, I don't think I
could do this anymore.
Then I found out he killed himself.
So it's like oftentimes the people that's always helping everybody else, like,
it make you want to start checking on them.
That's why when I did it, and not to bring up nothing with Drewski, but shout
out to Drewski.
I did a little show where I was on a blind date, and he was like, man, you too
uptight.
And I'm like, I'm not.
I just, most of the time, the people that make all the jokes, I check on their
way of being, because that's how my brother was.
He used to always make jokes and make me laugh, and he'd be doing my tattoos,
and I'd be telling him about everything I've been through.
Like, he was like my therapist, and he even flew out to California one time
just to tattoo me, okay, and stayed at my apartment and everything.
And you never know what people are going through internally, and that's the
reason I don't just take people for granted, like, especially people that's
always making everybody else laugh.
So I'll laugh with you, but I also want to be here with you to see what's going
on.
Yeah, so I'm going to laugh with you, but when we finish, I'm going to ask you,
like, you sure everything okay?
Because if you need to talk, I'm here.
And that's just the type of person I am, because he was one of them people.
He was super funny, everything.
I never would have thought he would have took his own life.
And that's what he just was dealing with, too much pain?
Yeah, he was dealing with a lot.
Yeah.
He was dealing with a lot.
That's my brother.
I love him.
Amen.
Trevon?
His name is Trevon Spielman.
Trevon Spielman.
But some people call him Trevon.
Yeah.
And, like, he's from Louisiana, too.
Trevon Spielman.
Well, good.
I'm glad we say his name today, man.
Yeah.
It just made me think about that, like, the people that give the most, we never
ask them,
do they need anything?
Yeah.
Yeah, man.
It's, you know, it's, man, a lot of my life, especially, like, as an adult in
the past 10
years, eight years, really, has been having a journey with myself, right?
I didn't even know who I was.
I don't even know if, honestly, bro, I feel sometimes like I've only been alive
for about
five or six years in some way.
Before that-
You too?
Yeah.
You too?
Before that, I was alive, but I was just, and I don't even know what was
controlling me.
I'm grateful that God was giving me guidance.
You was alive, but you wasn't living.
Man.
I was, well, I just didn't even know who, only, the only way I was experiencing
the world was
how you needed me to experience it, you know, kind of type of thing.
But I wanted to say one more time, just that, like, yeah, there was a moment
where I laughed
at myself.
Oh, hey, I didn't mean to cut you off.
Please forgive me.
No, you didn't at all.
We just got lost.
No, it's important.
This is good.
I think, and you're totally forgiven, and yeah, I'm sorry for cutting you off,
too.
But, yeah, just to be able to laugh at myself, bro, and then part of me, I felt,
man, my
whole life, here I am, and I won't even give my own self a laugh.
It's like, because I'm, not only am I talking, but I'm listening to myself at
the same time,
and I wouldn't even laugh.
Every time, I've just been like, man, that's, there's an old thing inside of me.
You're not enough.
You got to be perfect, or you're not, nobody's going to pay attention.
It's like just a constant system of judgment, you know, and so, man, to laugh
at myself
is just crazy.
My publicist, her name, Alvina, she like, God give you what you need a lot of
times when you
don't even know that you need it, and me and her argue and argue and argue and
argue, but
she always tell me, like, you're going to be great.
That's my life's mission, that you be great.
So, one of the lessons, we have like a lesson every week, and one of the
lessons for one
week, she was telling me, give yourself grace, because I'm super, I'm like you,
I'm super
critical on myself.
If I don't honor the commitments I made to myself, I'm a bitch, you know?
Yeah, definitely.
And here's the crazy thing I would do, Kevin, I would go, I would go for a run
one day or
do something, and then I'd be like, we grinding every day.
I'm going to go, I'm going to go run a million miles, next week I'm running
seven miles, and
then the next day I wouldn't even go for a run, but I'd have built up all of
this steam
in my head like I was in the Olympics.
And so then I'd let myself, my aspirations were so diabolical and ridiculous
that, but
when I did let myself down, I would let myself fall from the heights of my
aspirations, not
even from, you just took one run.
Not even from where you was at.
Yes.
You just took one run, and you just won neighborhood over, and you got yourself
at the Olympic trials
in Atlanta, like, but the shame I would feel would be the fall from the Olympic
trials,
and I only fucking went, damn, probably 1,100 feet.
That's why everybody that tell me they want to get into fitness, they be like,
what you
think I should do first?
I say, baby steps.
Baby steps.
Take baby steps.
If you walk in the gym and walk out, you still showed up.
You did something that you wouldn't have done yesterday.
Maybe this time you might get on a trail man walk for maybe two or three
minutes.
I don't know.
Who knows?
Start drinking more water.
Baby steps.
Like, everything is baby steps.
Yeah, I would never even give myself the grace of, like,
let me have those babies, you know.
Then you know something else I used to do?
I used to compare myself to people that was taking steroids and all of that,
and I'm like,
I want my body to look like this.
And I'm like, yeah.
And I used to watch them dudes say stuff like, if you ain't got no six-pack,
you fat, homie.
And I was like, damn, I'm fat.
So, I had unrealistic expectations.
I'm just like you.
And then I started giving myself grace, and I'm like, I didn't even come in it
to look like that.
I just wanted my clothes to be able to fit good.
Yeah.
I just didn't want to be titty man anymore.
Yeah, yeah.
He didn't want to have them nice titties on him, boy.
Man, man, breastuses.
I just didn't want to be titty man anymore.
And then you start comparing yourself to other people, and you lose.
We lose ourselves in what we really wanted.
What was our goal?
I just wanted a bedroom body.
That's it.
That's it.
That's it.
That's all.
I don't want to look good in my pajamas.
Yeah, I just wanted a nice little bedroom body.
Now, all of a sudden, I'm just like, man, I want to be Hercules.
I'm like, no.
Oh, yeah.
I want to have muscles on the side of my cock or whatever.
You have them dudes.
They be flexing their cock.
They got one dude.
He can flex his cock.
I'm like, I don't got to see that.
You been doing them dick lips, huh?
Yeah, you fucking doing something, bro.
Get that fishing string and put it at the end of it with the little weight, the
sinker.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Oh, yeah, yeah.
And make it flex.
With that fishing sinker, that little thing.