Name: Kevin Von Erich's Advice on Overcoming Loss and Grief
Uploaded: 2025-11-01T17:01:13.000Z
Description: Watch the stand-up comedy video 'Kevin Von Erich's Advice on Overcoming Loss and Grief' from Theo Von Clips on Comedy Buff. Published 2025-11-01. Transcript available.

Watch the stand-up comedy video 'Kevin Von Erich's Advice on Overcoming Loss and Grief' from Theo Von Clips on Comedy Buff. Published 2025-11-01. Transcript available.

what were the your parents lives like what was like um are your parents either
your parents still
alive no okay are they buried in the same place yeah they are yeah we uh we're
had my mother uh
you know we when we moved out i couldn't move to kawaii without taking my mom
with me oh she took
your mom with you yeah oh dude she lived in the house with us did she love it
there uh you know
my dad used to wrestle in japan a lot and so we would meet him in hawaii and i
didn't realize but
hawaii reminded her of her sons and she didn't want to go anywhere she wanted
to stay in her room
and she wanted to grow her flowers and that was it she just she did love it she
loves her flowers you
know but it was like um it reminded her too much of that but she and she passed
away up in our our
guest room upstairs and uh but all my granddaughters and my my son's wives were
standing around her
singing hymns while she passed away and feel before she died she was a super
good woman she was so sweet
and thoughtful to everyone when she'd come to school i'll be so proud of her
you know because all the
kids would like her but when she was laying in that bed and she breathed her
last breath even as she
like that her hand went up like that and i could just picture touching jesus's
hands and going to
heaven you know she was probably ready to go see her sons huh oh i know she was
you know my dad
i'll tell you all this personal stuff buddy but uh well i could match you if
you need but
we've heard my stories a lot no i just can't imagine i bet she was ready to go
see her sons you
know i bet she'd been gone away from them long enough and you know my dad too
because really when
you think about it my dad lost more than my mom my dad lost his sons but he
didn't he didn't ever show
it i mean but he hurt he was hurting but he was like uh it was just that he
at his latter in the final days he was so torn up inside i think when he saw me
it would remind
him of all the sons he'd lost and he pulled that 44 out one day and uh and he
pointed his head like
i'm just gonna shoot myself no don't do it don't do it dad and he pointed the
gun at me and i said
he said you're afraid to die aren't you because he said you'd have the guts you'd
do it too if you had
the guts and i said dad it doesn't take guts to live i mean it take guts to
kill yourself dad it take guts
to stay alive on this earth and uh he was hurting so much he would just go oh
god he rubbed his face
to go oh god and when he i'd hear that you know i i actually wanted him to die
i wanted him to pass
away he was he was just miserable and i know that when he died he was right
there with dave carry
it was beautiful but my dad had gotten away he said look son uh if you kick an
old dog enough times
he's gonna bite you and that's how i am with god right now he's kicked me too
many times
and so i i said dad it's gonna be you're gonna be so surprised but i couldn't
convince him of it you
know was it an option to take take those some of the slots off the schedule or
did you guys feel
like as a family we have to fill this did you feel like your dad was like we
have to fill this or it
was just that's what you did well i gotta tell you we you know after the deaths
we were uh we were down
you know and we sure didn't feel like getting back in that ring but you know
you have to because after
death there's all the publicity and dad's saying you know it's been a week it's
been two weeks or
whatever but i mean there were times when we said dad i can't do it yet can't
do it you know but he did
want us to get in that ring it was but it was a family business i don't hold it
against him i
understand but uh it was uh brutal to make yourself do that i mean what's on
your mind is a love and
brotherhood and seeing him again in heaven but you want to project i'm gonna
kick that guy's ass
you know it's kind of you're torn you know a lot of life's like that huh yeah
it's like having two
feelings at the same time it's like especially with death because it's like
somebody's gone but
they're the one that's gone but you're the one that hurts and and you don't
even know what they're
feeling like and you almost don't want to like mourn too much because then it's
like are you just
using the morning for yourself just like all that kind of stuff has always hit
me i know you wake up
in the morning and there's nothing you can't think about anything else man i'm
old enough i can tell
you a little something now i never wanted to endorse marijuana or put it over
because you know i had a
position you know what when i would wake up in the morning i could not think of
anything else that's all
i thought about and if i smoked a joint i could daydream i could think of
something else you know and i
i had to i was grateful for that stuff i mean it helped me yeah i can't imagine
i can't imagine
what it's like to be kind of the soul the surviving son did you feel chosen or
did you feel deserted does
that question make any sense sure it's funny you say that yeah because i felt
chosen in the way that my dad gave me a tape recorder back when i was in fifth
grade
it was a bell and howl you know and you could talk into it and i couldn't
believe i could hear my voice
you know and so uh and so i i thought i love my dad so much i filled the tape
up okay one day dad's gonna
die and i'm gonna talk and here i am alive while he's still alive and so i'm
gonna say something to
make me feel better man i'm sorry kev sorry but i just filled the tape up with
that oh as if you
were impersonating your dad yeah yeah like i can comfort myself later when i
don't know dude that's
really interesting though it's so interesting but i remember saying uh uh dave
and carrie we loved each
other so much i thought i can't bear to lose them i could not bear it and i
thought but they love
me that way and so i i said this even in a prayer i said god if one of us has
to
stand back if one of us has to be the only one let it be me wow because i'm
hard and i'm strong inside
lord god made me that way but i didn't know it would ever happen but i did say
it you know
you know i used to have i mean this is like silly but like so when i was
growing up i didn't
have any like whenever my dad died i didn't have anything of his right i didn't
have like a shirt
or like a button or just anything to remember him by you know and so i used to
write postcards to
my kids right whenever i was on the road just traveling over the years doing
comedy i would
write postcards to my kids i don't have any kids yet but i would send them postcards
just so in the
future they would be able to see that i was thinking of them right yeah like i
just wanted that i wanted
to prove i was like so smart bro but right but i just think it's the same type
of thing it's like
you're just trying to like i don't know you're always thinking of like um how
do i make sure that
every that somebody knew i cared or that somebody knew somebody else i'm gonna
die someday yeah i'm
gonna die someday it's just stuff like that is interesting i think a lot of
people do little
things like that um but that's interesting because you could have felt like you
were deserted
yeah but to end up feeling that you were chosen that's pretty powerful well i
don't think i'd say
that we're chosen more like i'd say that i i would not want to put them through
that ah yeah like you
were the one that could handle it then i think i i would not want them to go
through it yeah i would
rather me go with it than they did and i think that's sweet of god might have
gave me some credit for
that you know because it's all about this we're in a struggle you know it's
like we're not on this earth
to laugh it up and have fun we have tests real tests and life is hard and that
kind of stuff that
kicks you in the nuts is what makes you stronger yeah makes you more strong and
without that you can't
give advice to people about things you haven't been around you know but once
you've had it and been
suffered yourself now you can say listen up well with that said like um and i
agree you know i was
just thinking about that the other day it's like i've always had this outlook
and they kind of don't
teach you that when you're a kid as much that and they really shouldn't when
you're a young child
but i think they should teach you at some point that life is a test that it is
full of a lot of tests
and it's not all just going to be like this perfect thing or everything might
not work out the way
you think it you know you never really kind of get that education maybe or
maybe some parents do give
it to their kids um but with what you said a second ago if you had to share
something with somebody who
had lost a sibling or who had dealt with you know some grief from loss
something that you've learned
because i mean you're like almost the the neil armstrong of loss i mean you've
you've had you've
endured a lot in your life you know and watched and watched other loved ones
endure a lot you know
um what what have you kind of learned that you feel like you could share if
anything well thank you
for giving that opportunity because that's what i want to do is to try to make
it positive for
somebody buddy but um you know it's tough because i want to tell people like
when somebody dies it's
going to get better but it doesn't get better man you don't even get used to it
it just keep tolerating
it and you just somehow it gets a little better someday but there's no good
word to say to them
but when somebody's really busted up you know and it when you overcome that and
are able to
maintain through that well then it's it's now you now you've uh you've achieved
through a struggle
you've achieved over on a an obstruction you've gone over a a hurdle you know
and it's like
now you can say you won now i can say you won something because without a fight
there can't be a
winner there can't be a champion there can't be a success unless there's that
adversity you know
and so god wouldn't put you through that unless you're going to benefit
and feel you got a great mind you're intelligent guy i can tell oh thanks man
life is he's knocking
on your door too my friend you two i feel like you and me are probably pretty
similar in some ways
you feel that sure do i do too um do you uh was how how how therapeutic was
having your own
family for you everything man that was what did it is what saved me because uh
man when you can have anything you want you know when your brothers can have
anything they want and
and they come over and let's go do this let's go it's like what a life i mean
it's uh it's a whole
lot but for anybody that's wondering i kevin von eric i consider myself the
luckiest guy in the world
i mean i know for that movie coming out you may not believe it but i am happy
all day every day
and i mean i look forward to tomorrow and uh i couldn't ask for a better way
things turned out and
to to bitch about my brothers dying too young the truth is we had a great time
we had a great time
a long time hell yeah we're still talking about how good the time was yeah yeah
so i'm not i can't call it a bad day
and i can't call it a bad day